Mothers can study birth control options, monitor their cycles and try to carefully map out family expansion, but surprise pregnancies still happen.
Though most parents joke about it later, a new study in the journal of Child Development reveals that unexpected babies – both those that weren't planned at all and those that did not occur when their parents expected them – receive "fewer resources than intended siblings," including parental support and learning materials like books and puzzles. The study goes on to say that "Parents’ stress and lack of patience may be directed explicitly toward an unwanted child."
Would an unplanned pregnancy alter your treatment of that offspring?
Families happen whether they are planned or not! While some couples carefully orchestrate conception, other women end up pregnant as a result of miscalculated dates, birth control gone awry or other reasons. Sometimes the surprise ends up being a family secret. Did you have an unplanned pregnancy?
I have more than one friend that refers to herself as "an accident" and all are fine with the knowledge.
Odd age gaps between siblings or parents telling them they were a "welcomed surprise" are two telltale signs.
But regardless of age, does a child need to know that they are the result of a missed pill or condom breaking?
Would you tell your tot that they were the result of an unplanned pregnancy?