Working Moms

Having kids and a career is a juggle and a struggle for moms who try and split their time and attention between the two. When a woman dies is she remembered more for having had a career or children? We asked our Facebook fans and Twitter followers. Here's what they had to say.

• "That depends on the person! We won't remember most celebrities for their motherhood when they die." — Darlene C.
• "I would say both." — @faziladini
• "She is remembered for being a good role model. Works either way." — Janet M.
• "I will always remember the sweetness in my wife's eyes and what we were to one another before children, before careers." — Corey Wing
• "Depends on who is doing the remembering." — @TxTerriSweeps
• "Mother." — @urmariposa
• "It depends on who is remembering and where that person fit into her life. I remember my mom as a mother. She worked too, but she'll always be mom even though she's gone. For her co-workers, I'm guessing they remember her more for her career and what she was like to work with. Either way, she was a wonderful woman to everyone." — Karla D.
• "Maybe celebrities are known for their contribution, but the rest of us for mothering. Good or bad (grimace)." — Pam B.
• "I remember a great woman in my life-my Grandmother-for having done both-she had six children and worked by herself to raise them...it's strength that is remembered while playing either role." — Pilar M.

Bethenny Frankel was in California taping Are You Smarter Than a Fifth Grader, but the reality star had another child on her mind. The chef turned businesswoman has lived a large portion of the last few years in front of the camera on The Real Housewives of New York and Bethenny Getting Married?, even filming her nuptials to Jason Hoppy and their honeymoon for the public to view. She also divulged her postpartum weight-loss secrets and posed for a swimsuit photo three weeks after giving birth, but now it seems like motherhood might be giving her a new perspective. Last night, @BETHENNY tweeted:

En route to airport again.couldn't bear staying over&being away from bryn so taking the redeye.she'll be in my arms in the am.

Did having a child alter your level of work intensity?

When your child sits down to watch Playhouse Disney, you aren't the only mother in the room. Behind the screen, the script, and the concept, there's Nancy Kanter, Senior Vice President of Playhouse Disney Worldwide and mom of three. Though her children are grown, the television exec still has babies she nurtures from concept to creation — shows like Handy Manny, Little Einsteins and Imagination Movers. It's an exhaustive process that involves educational, curriculum and cultural consultants, focus groups of moms and children, research, feedback and reworking. Each social message and its delivery is carefully crafted since youngsters are likely to replicate what they watch in the real world. The Mouse doesn't just put things on air. We recently had the chance to chat with Nancy via phone.

LilSugar: Your job is in television, but you are also a mother. What's an acceptable amount of TV?
Nancy Kanter: It's always about the balance in your life and your activities with your kids. I don't think anybody would advocate that you put your kid in front of the television for endless hours on any given day. It's a family decision. There's no magic number. We target preschoolers children two to six on Playhouse Disney. Often our programming is the first TV experience that kids have. We are thrilled with parents that pay attention to what their kids are watching, and it's our responsibility to give them really well conceived, entertaining shows. And, in the preschool world to give them something that is of value developmentally.

LilSugar: What is the time from concept to airing a show?
Nancy Kanter: It can certainly vary depending on how well the initial stage of developments go, but it's usually between a year and a year and a half in development before we say this is in good enough shape to go ahead and make a pilot and present it. From the pilot stage to finally hitting the air, that's usually a year and a half to two years.

To see what Nancy said sets Disney programming apart and if there will ever be a collaboration with Sesame Street, read more

Lots of moms think out loud, and Tiffany Carboni does too. The Boss comes from the Mother Tongue & Other Sharp Objects blog at OnSugar.

My boss is a tyrant. She screams, flies off the handle, can’t effectively communicate her needs, and yet she expects me to work productively with a smile on my face each and every day. There are days I’m ready to have a serious conversation with her explaining why I’m going to quit and take a better, higher paying job with someone who will respect me.

But since she’s only 32-inches tall and is currently running around with a yogurt-baked bean slime streak in her hair while hitting the sofa with a squeaky hammer, I am reminded why I’m holding back.

Throughout my 10-plus years in the workforce, I have worked some very interesting jobs in which I have dealt with people of all temperaments. As a senior editor of two well-regarded magazines, I have met dignitaries and celebrities in the art and design world. As a film and television location manager and, before that, a production assistant, I dealt directly with movie producers and directors, famous actors and musicians.

In other words, I have dealt with my share of egotistical, self-righteous blow-hards who can sometimes be unbelievably ill-mannered. But, it wasn’t until I became a mother that I realized how good I had had it back then even with the most egregious of adult tempers.

No matter how bad any of those other jobs got or how out-of-control some of the demands I had to negotiate, I never came across anyone who thought it proper form to disagree by head-butting me. To finish reading this post, click here.

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