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What Kids Think We Really Do at Work

In honor of Take Your Child to Work Day, we asked moms to tell us what their kids think they really do at work all day.

In honor of Take Your Child to Work Day, we asked moms to tell us what their kids think they really do at work all day. When I asked my younger kids, they had different perspectives on my job (a parenting writer).

While my 3-year-old said, "Mommy does typing on the computer all day," my 10-year-old was a little more . . . well . . . blunt. He said I "write stuff about how kids are supposed to act and what their parents should do about it." Close, but not quite!

The moms we asked had much funnier answers to share. These answers are bound to make you giggle.

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Would Bringing Your Baby to Work Make You a Better Employee?

There's been a lot of buzz in the media lately about the challenges of maintaining a happy and sustainable work-life balance, and it's one of those topics that spurs strong opinions and countless debates.


There's been a lot of buzz in the media lately about the challenges of maintaining a happy and sustainable work-life balance, and it's one of those topics that spurs strong opinions and countless debates. Yesterday, the New York Post ran an article on moms who bring their babies to the office with them, an alternative take that while still fairly uncommon, is gaining popularity, especially in smaller workplaces.

According to Carla Moquin, the founder of the Parenting in the Workplace Institute, there are currently 186 organizations across the US with formal baby policies. "I think there’s a lot more understanding that this is a viable concept as long as you set it up right," says Moquin. This includes establishing formal policies regarding where parents can change diapers, breastfeed and handle crying babies, as well as designating a co-worker to serve as an alternate caregiver when the parent needs to attend a meeting. In most workplaces, the policy holds until the baby is about 9 months old.

Over the past seven years, Moquin has interviewed hundreds of parents who bring their babies to work and cite lower stress levels and fewer financial worries as two of the benefits of the arrangement.

Do you think that having your baby at the office with you would help, or hinder your work productivity? What kind of an impact would it have on your happiness? Sound off! We want to hear what you think.

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5 Tips For Returning to Work After Maternity Leave

Even if you're starting to go stir-crazy being at home 24/7, returning to work after maternity leave can be an extremely emotional and difficult transition.

Even if you're starting to go stir-crazy being at home 24/7, returning to work after maternity leave can be an extremely emotional and difficult transition. To help you navigate some of the challenges, we've rounded up the best advice from working moms on how to make your transition as smooth as possible.

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More Mothers Want to Work Full-Time . . . But Why?

We're happy to present this article from our partner site Yahoo!

We're happy to present this article from our partner site Yahoo! Shine:

Close on the heels of a national debate about women and work sparked by Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg and her new book, a new survey shows that more moms would prefer to work outside of the home full time.

A new Pew Research survey found changing preferences among working moms. While 20 percent of moms with kids under age 18 said that they'd that rather work full time in 2007, that number jumped to 32 percent last year.

The shift may have more to do with economic conditions than professional ambitions, the Associated Press reported.

"Women aren't necessarily evolving toward some belief or comfort level with work," study co-author Kim Parker, an associate director at the Pew Research center, told the Associated Press. "They are also reacting to outside forces and in this case, it is the economy."

Read on to learn a few reasons why the percentage of full-time working mothers has increased.

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Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg Wants to Inspire Young Girls, Including Her Daughter

Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook's COO, has easily become the de facto face of the working executive mom and workplace equality.

Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook's COO, has easily become the de facto face of the working executive mom and workplace equality. As one of the highest-ranking women in Silicon Valley (another being Yahoo's Marissa Mayer who is quickly becoming the poster child for how executives should not treat working moms), the mom of two (who once said she felt she had to sneak out of the office to see her kids) is trying to inspire her daughter and other young girls to go after their dreams in her new book Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead. But appearing on Good Morning America today, Sandberg said it was her son, who asked her if women "could even be president" who may have inspired her to write the book. Take a look.

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Julianna Margulies Talks Working-Mom Guilt, Valentine's Day, and the Value of Reading

Julianna Margulies knows a thing or two about guilt.

Julianna Margulies knows a thing or two about guilt. As the star of the hit series The Good Wife, she plays the repressed, estranged wife of a disgraced politician who is now learning the way around working motherhood. At home, she plays the real-life role of a working mom who rushes home just in time to read her son, Kieran, 5, a book before bed. As she says, "You feel stretched, and you always feel like you can't waste a minute." That's why the reading is so important to her.

I sat down with the Golden Globe nominee and red-carpet stunner at the recent LEGO DUPLO Read! Build! Play! event in NYC, where Julianna led a story time and play session for local kids to stress the importance of early child literacy. We discussed how she's woven reading into her nightly routine with Kieran since before he was born, the stress of being a working mother, and that moment when she really felt like a mother.

PopSugar: Alicia Florrick is obviously the ultimate working mother, and you are a working mom yourself. Do you bring any of your own stories or issues or working-mom issues into the story line?
Julianna Margulies: The kids on the show are much older than mine. Alicia had them very young and her kids are on their way out of the house. I mean I'm just getting my kid into kindergarten. But what I would say is similar is that you feel stretched, and you always feel like you can't waste a minute. There's no room for error, and so when bumps in the road happen, you have to just take a breath and say OK, this is where it's at right now, and I can't do anything about it. If my kid is up all night because he's sick, I still have to show up at work the next day, and that's no one's fault. I just am a wreck when I get to work, and that's something I have to deal with all the time. That's OK. You wouldn't want either the child or the job to go away so you just keep marching forward. And every now and then, you fall asleep standing up or have a horrific moment, hopefully alone in your bathroom, and sob your eyes out and say "I can't do it all!"

PS: I had one of those last night, so I understand.
JM: Yeah, every working mother feels the pain of not putting enough into your work and not putting enough into your kid. That's how it is.

PS: Do you and Kieran have any bedtime reading rituals?
JM: Since he was in utero, I've been reading and my husband has been reading to that little boy. And, you know, if I'm lucky enough, this past week, even though we've been working long hours, for some reason, I've gotten home every night at 7:45, and he's usually asleep by 8. But our ritual no matter what, and no matter how tired he is, even last night, I was reading to him, and he fell asleep on my shoulder, and I just kept reading because I always feel like those words somehow will get in there. I feel like if you can spend an hour a day with your kid, if you can't have all day with your kid, but you could have one hour of quality time, it should be spent reading and interacting with them verbally because it gives them such confidence. And I've noticed at 5 — he just turned 5 and we're not pushing reading on him — but he's reading because that's all we've ever been doing.

Keep reading to see what Julianna had to say about kids and Valentine's Day and the best tip her mama taught her about parenting.

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Should Employers Be Allowed to Ask Women About Plans to Have Children?

How would you feel if your company inquired about your plans to have more children?

How would you feel if your company inquired about your plans to have more children? Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook's chief operating officer, believes that an open dialogue about family life between employees and their employers should exist and would lessen the gender gap in the workplace. Sandberg, a 43-year-old mother of two, spoke at the World Economic Forum's annual meeting in Davos, Switzerland, sharing her personal experience with gender inequity in the workplace and how avoiding the topic only leads to increased discrimination on both open and covert levels.

At one point during the talk, Sandberg asked the men in the audience with children to raise their hands if their working was a topic that had ever been questioned. Not a single hand went up, a contrast to the many that were raised when the same question was asked of the women in the room. "Think of it like a marathon," Sandberg said. "Everyone's cheering the men on. The messages for women are different: Are you sure you want to run? Don't you want to run? Don't you have kids at home?"

Sandberg's belief is that opening up the dialogue and removing the current constraints of employment law (The Pregnancy Discrimination Act currently prohibits employers from asking female employees about their plans to have children) would benefit women and allow for increased flexibility and greater opportunities for career advancement.

What do you think? Would you be offended if your supervisor or HR department asked you about your plans to have kids?

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8 Tips For Smoothly Transitioning Back to Work

Here's a post from our partners at BabyCenter!

Here's a post from our partners at BabyCenter! Every week, we bring you the best parenting and lifestyle stories from the experts at BabyCenter, including this post from Sarah Welch about returning from maternity leave.

I distinctly remember when I had my first child thinking that maternity leave sounded like an eternity.

I was your typical Type-A workaholic and worried a lot about how far behind I'd fall in my "time off." It didn't help that I had a boss with, shall we say, misogynist tendencies. I also had heard more than a few "horror stories" from fellow Type-A friends and colleagues about the mind-numbing nature of being home alone with a newborn.

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In the end, my oldest was a joy of a baby. I surprised myself by having a lot of fun. I am sure I was able to relax thanks to the miracle of email; it enabled me to keep a finger on the pulse of things without doing much work.

My leave flew by — before I knew it, it was time to head back to work.

Looking back now, I can laugh, but boy-oh-boy, it was one of the toughest transitions I have ever made in my life. I figured I'd dive right back in — and be able to work in the same way I always had.

My addled brain never calculated the productivity hit of a few things, like:

  • Leaky boobs and their pesky need to be pumped.
  • Days when my baby was sick and needed me at home.
  • Fitting in well visits.
  • Fielding the inevitable calls from caregivers asking about this or that.
  • Having drastically reduced flexibility to get to the office early or work late.

To say that my re-entry was bumpy was an understatement. I was often stressed-to-the-max, feeling like I was always behind the proverbial 8-ball. It got so bad that I eventually had to stage an organizational intervention for myself (potentially suggested by my very understanding and unflappable husband).

It turned out that organizing a few, simple things made all the difference.

Before you head back from maternity leave, here are eight things that are absolutely essential to have buttoned up.

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5 of the best pumpkin desserts
Are light-up shoes trashy?
Short on space? 7 hook-on highchairs
French president vows to ban homework

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Are Working Moms Really Happier Than Stay-at-Home Moms?

Balancing (or choosing between) career and motherhood is a decision (or struggle) that every mom faces.

Balancing (or choosing between) career and motherhood is a decision (or struggle) that every mom faces. This weekend, Motherlode, The New York Times' parenting blog, took a look at the results of a Gallup poll on the emotional satisfaction of working vs. nonworking mothers. Survey says . . .

Non-employed women with young children at home are more likely than women with young children at home who are employed for pay to report experiencing sadness and anger [for] a lot of the day . . . Stay-at-home moms are also much more likely to report having ever been diagnosed with depression than employed moms. Employed moms are about as emotionally well-off as working women who do not have children at home.

The standout results supporting these findings? Twenty-six percent of stay-at-home moms experience "sadness," versus just 16 percent of working women, and 28 percent of stay-at-home moms report depression, versus 17 percent of their employed counterparts. Other emotional benchmarks, like smiling, laughing, and experiencing enjoyment or happiness, had closer results.

While the pool of women surveyed was of a fairly substantial size (60,000 women responded to Gallup's phone survey), we can't but help but wonder how other factors, like salary, job flexibility, commute time, and spousal support, weighed in.

Do you agree with the study's findings?

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Are You a Stay at Home Mom Because It Saves Your Family Money?

Does it cost you more to go to work than to stay at home with your kids?

Does it cost you more to go to work than to stay at home with your kids? According to CNN Money, for many families, that's become the case. While having one parent stay at home used to be thought of as a luxury, in today's economy, many moms and dads who would rather be working have forfeited their careers because it makes better sense for their family's finances. A 2010 report issued by Child Care Aware of America found that the cost of childcare surpassed median annual rent payments in every state in the country.

What this means for many parents is that it actually ends up being more economical for the spouse earning less to stay at home with the kids than it does to pay for a nanny or daycare.

Tell us, do you stay at home because it makes better financial sense for you and your family?