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Should Mothers Be Prosecuted For Exposing Their Unborn Babies to Drugs?

Could a glass of wine during pregnancy land you behind bars?

Could a glass of wine during pregnancy land you behind bars? It might if you live in Alabama. In this upcoming weekend's New York Times Magazine, Ada Calhoun delves into Alabama's controversial chemical-endangerment laws where mothers who give birth to babies with even a trace of drugs in their bloodstreams are not only ordered into rehab but are criminally prosecuted for putting their newborns in harm's way.

In one case, when a newborn died hours after his premature birth, and mother tested positive for methamphetamine, she was charged with a Class A felony for contributing to the death of her child, with a mandatory sentence of 10 years to life. The laws — which are the harshest in the country — were designed to protect kids from "explosive meth labs," but they are now being applied to expectant mothers, and that's where the controversy comes in. Planned Parenthood, the ACLU, and the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists all fear that such prosecutions may just be the tip of the iceberg. In the article, Emma Ketteringham, the director of the National Advocates For Pregnant Women, says:

"It starts with cocaine, and then it’s cigarettes and alcohol. How much alcohol? And when? It’s only a matter of time until it comes to refusing a bed-rest order because you need to work and take care of your other children and then you have a miscarriage. What if you stay at a job where you’re exposed to toxic chemicals, as at a dry cleaner? What if you keep taking your SSRIs during pregnancy? If a woman is told that sex during her pregnancy could be a risk to the fetus, and the woman has sex anyway and miscarries, are you going to prosecute the woman — and the man, too?"

What do you think? Should women be prosecuted for exposing their unborn babies to drugs?

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Do You "Sneak" Out of Work to See Your Kids?

There isn't a specific date on the calendar, but sometime in the past two decades, the 9-to-5 workday disappeared, and the quantity of time spent in the office came to outweigh the quality of work completed.

There isn't a specific date on the calendar, but sometime in the past two decades, the 9-to-5 workday disappeared, and the quantity of time spent in the office came to outweigh the quality of work completed. For moms who work outside the home, the shift has been extremely difficult, reducing the number of families that eat dinner together and generally reducing the amount of time parents and kids spend together. The only option for some moms who hope to see their tots before bedtime is to sneak out of the office and then "prove" that they are still dedicated by sending emails throughout the night.

Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook's COO, has been an outspoken advocate for working mothers. In a recent interview for the PBS Makers series, the mother of two admitted that she leaves work at 5:30 every day in order to see her kids, but didn't talk about it for years. She said, "I walk out of this office every day at 5:30 so I’m home for dinner with my kids at 6, and interestingly, I’ve been doing that since I had kids. I did that when I was at Google, I did that here, and I would say it’s not until the last year, two years, that I’m brave enough to talk about it publicly. Now I certainly wouldn’t lie, but I wasn’t running around giving speeches on it." She also admitted that she feels like "there's no such thing as work-life balance. There's work, and there's life, and there's no balance."

parenting

Do You Dread the Ice Cream Truck?

The sound of the ice cream truck playing its song is synonymous with Summer — as is the sound of kids crying when their parents say, "No.

The sound of the ice cream truck playing its song is synonymous with Summer — as is the sound of kids crying when their parents say, "No. No ice cream before dinner." It's an age-old problem, and one that most mamas simply consider par for the course with parenting. But in the progressive neighborhood of Park Slope, Brooklyn, the moms are waging a war against ice cream peddling. On a popular message board, one frustrated mom wrote:

Along with the first truly beautiful day of the year, my son and I had our first ruined day at the playground. Two different people came into the actual playground with ice cream/Italian ice push carts. I was able to avoid it for a little while but eventually I left with a crying 4-year-old.

A chorus of moms quickly chimed in with their own accounts of fending off tots who screamed for ice cream. The angry mothers ultimately called for a ban on the sale of the ice-cold treats in their popular park, with one saying, "I should not have to fight with my children every warm day on the playground just so someone can make a living!"

Others argue that it is the parents' responsibility to simply say "no" to their kids every now and then, and the ice cream vendors shouldn't be penalized. What do you think?

Source: Flickr User Kazz.0

nudity

When Did You Know It Was Time to Cover Up?

You never know what goes on behind closed doors, though in some families those doors are always open — and so are their buttons and flies.

You never know what goes on behind closed doors, though in some families those doors are always open — and so are their buttons and flies. While American society has a reputation for covering up, especially in front of the kids, in some homes it's perfectly natural to let it all hang out in the open. That is, until an incident, conversation, or birthday sends mom and dad heading for some cover.

Over the weekend, the subject of family nudity was debated in The New York Times when a mother of two boys, ages 8 and 12, asked if it was time to start hiding the family jewels. Aviva Rubin wrote:

That ease with one another's nudity is part of the depth of my connection to them — something closed doors don't offer. I know it has to change, but when? In my childhood home no private parts were actively on display, so no moment ever came when they had to be hidden away.

Our readers have been very vocal about whether parents should be naked in front of the kids. Now we want to know what actually sent you for cover — was it the birth of your child, some pointing and laughing, or just a feeling that it was time?

Eco

Do the Kids Use More Natural Products Than Mama?

Moms want what's best for their lil ones, so is it possible that baby's using healthier products than mama?

Moms want what's best for their lil ones, so is it possible that baby's using healthier products than mama? Today's New York Times looks at the skyrocketing growth in the sale of premium skin care products (including organic and natural products) — showing that sales have jumped 68 percent over the past five years, while baby care product sales have only increased 16 percent.

Needless to say, finding lotions and soaps free from parabens, sulfates, and phthalates costs significantly more than traditional options, but several moms interviewed in the article said they consider the purchases a necessity, not a luxury, for their tots. As one mama said:

"I am not necessarily into natural lines myself. But it was important for me to find pure and nontoxic products for my kids because I feel like their skin is so new."

What about your home — do your kids use healthier products than you do?

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March Madness: Your Tot May Be the Key to Winning the Office Pool

It's the road to the final four!

It's the road to the final four! Sixty-four college basketball teams are vying for the NCAA title starting today, and with just a few hours until tip-off, parents everywhere are scurrying to finish their brackets. Rather than turn to the so-called experts, you may want to turn to your tot to finish up the form! As AT&T suggests in the ad above, any parents that have ever entered an office pool can probably tell you, it's the mom who had her kindergartner fill out her bracket that usually wins. Whether it's the mascot they like, the colors of the uniform, or a personal relationship with the team (45 percent of LilSugar readers would like their kids to attend their alma mater), kids always seem to know best!

So tell us, did you turn to your tot to fill out your bracket this year?

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Mayim Bialik Takes On Opponents of Attachment Parenting

Mayim Bialik is no stranger to controversy.

Mayim Bialik is no stranger to controversy. The Big Bang Theory actress and former Blossom star is quickly becoming the poster child for attachment parenting with the release of her new memoir, Beyond the Sling: A Real-Life Guide to Raising Confident, Loving Children the Attachment Parenting Way, out today. In the book, the mom of two — to Miles, 6, and Frederick, 3 — who holds a PhD in neuroscience, recounts her beliefs in carrying her children for most of their first year (rarely putting them down), breastfeeding on demand (she's nursing her 3-and-a-half-year-old), elimination communication (no diapers after the first year), unschooling, and creating a family bed. Her lifestyle isn't for the faint of heart, and after showing it off on Nightline last night, she's coming under fire.

During her conversation with Juju Chang, she discussed the hostile way parents critique each other's parenting choices, saying, "Women have taken office politics and transported them to our homes and to our social circles. You're either right or you're wrong."

Do you agree with Mayim's assessment of why parents are so quick to criticize?

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Weinstein Company's Bully Documentary Receives "R" Rating

It all comes down to six lil curse words.

It all comes down to six lil curse words. One of the biggest issues facing school children today is bullying, with some statistics showing that as many as half of all kids are bullied at one point during their school years. Following the tragic deaths of kids who just couldn't face the torture anymore, movie bigwig Harvey Weinstein is preparing to premiere Bully, a documentary about the consequences of bullying, later this month. The film has already earned accolades at various film festivals and 10-minute long standing ovations at screenings around the country.

So what's wrong? Because the film includes six four-letter words, it has earned an "R" rating from the Motion Picture Association of America — meaning no one under the age of 17 is allowed to see it without adult supervision. That means no screenings at school assemblies and no groups of kids heading to the theater to see it on a Friday night. The onus will be placed on parents to take their kids to see it. The Weinstein Company is appealing the rating and petitions are currently circulating throughout the country.

Brad Pitt

What's the Best Sound of Your Day?

A baby's gurgle? Your child's voice?

A baby's gurgle? Your child's voice? For Brad Pitt, the answer is the sound of his children sleeping — and he's not talking about the quiet he hears when his kids are finally asleep, but the sounds of their rhythmic breathing. While appearing on Inside the Actors Studio, the father of six took part in the Proust Questionnaire, telling James Lipton that hearing his kids' overnight breathing is the best sound in the world. When the audience of acting students gave a collective sigh at his answer, Pitt responded that they'd understand when they became parents.

Do you agree? What's the best sound of your day?

Eco

Is Going Organic Really Worth It?

Going green has never been quite so hip, but is it worth the cost?

Going green has never been quite so hip, but is it worth the cost? Just last week Jessica Alba launched The Honest Company, an eco-friendly baby care line that is not only safe but affordable when compared to other organic diaper and skin care companies. But now one of my favorite organic nursery companies is changing course.

Canada's 3 Sprouts — the maker of adorable modern storage bins, hooded towels, and wall organizers — just announced that due to rising costs, they'll no longer be an organic line. In order to keep costs down — and, presumably, sales up — the company is switching to nonorganic cotton and new packaging for the coming year.

The change has me wondering if more mamas are switching away from organic given the state of the economy?