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Parenting Q&A: My Son Doesn't Care About Consequences

Q. There’s no disciplining my two-year-old son.

Q. There’s no disciplining my two-year-old son. He does not care about consequences. If I threaten him with time out for hitting his sister, he walks up, whacks her and then walks in his room and sits in time out. We have taken away his toys and nothing works —why doesn’t he care?

A. The self-imposed exile is always an interesting move. What does this tell you? Your son needs to be in control and have power. That's what he cares about and that is what you will give and take away. He needs to learn how to earn control rather than maniacally reign over the entire family and eventually, school.

Never threaten—simply do. Make very firm statements such as, “You hit your sister. Hitting is dangerous and unacceptable. The next time you want to do something the answer will be no.” You then make him care for his sister’s tears and he will play with her in a kid way.

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Parenting Q&A: Is There a Way to End My Daughter's Whining?

Q. I have a five-year-old daughter who is eager to please, but whines when she doesn’t get her way.

Q. I have a five-year-old daughter who is eager to please, but whines when she doesn’t get her way. It drives me nuts. Do you have any tips on how to get her to stop?

A. Daughter’s whining drives mom crazy — that sounds about right to me. Now multiply it by one hundred and you have adolescence.

Remember Pavlov and his dogs? It’s conditioned responses. She has discovered if she whines you react and she gets attention. Strange as it seems, even negative attention is positive attention to a young child. The solution? Stop reacting. Be aware of your voice tone and body language when she gets the pitch that makes your hair stand on end. Take deep yoga breathes and “under” react. Learn to softly and calmly say things like, “I can not help you when you talk in that voice. When you talk in your regular voice I will listen.” Do not ask her to stop — tell her to stop. Let her know you are done with her whining and she needs to find another way to communicate with you.

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Parenting Q&A: Is Valentine's an Appropriate Holiday For Kids?

At some point in life, every mom faces a parenting dilemma and more often than not it's in the first few years of her offspring's life.

At some point in life, every mom faces a parenting dilemma and more often than not it's in the first few years of her offspring's life. Suddenly, getting your child to eat more than just carbohydrates or stopping them from throwing fits seems easier said than done. So we've enlisted parenting expert and Montessori school director, Lonna Corder, to answer your questions this week! She's been doling out advice for 25 years as a teacher, parent/child consultant and on television.

Q. Last year a little boy in my son’s preschool class gave a girl classmate a very expensive Valentine on his own accord. Do you thinks it’s appropriate for such young children to partake in this affectionate holiday?

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