Becoming a mother for the first time is an exciting, overwhelming, and, yes, sometimes anxiety-ridden experience. You have nine months to process the fact that your life is about to drastically change, but all those unknown elements (What will my baby look like? Will he have colic? Will she be a good sleeper? Do I have everything I need?) can be overwhelming and scary. While it's probably healthy to worry about some things — all the better to be prepared — there are others you can cross off your list, including the five natural but unnecessary worries below.
- Fear: You and your baby won't bond immediately.
Reality: While it can take some women (myself included) a while to feel like they're feeding, changing, bathing, and rocking out of love, not responsibility, it's the rare woman who doesn't eventually fall head over heels for her baby. It's OK if you don't have a fireworks moment the first time you see your newborn. She'll still think you're the greatest mom ever.
- Fear: You don't know enough about newborns to be a good mother.
Reality: If you're having this fear, it probably means you're also engaged enough to read a few books or websites about caring for a newborn, so you can figure out the whole feeding, diapering, and swaddling thing. But even if you don't read a single thing before your baby arrives, know that so much of being a new mom is about trusting your instincts. All new moms — whether they've taken tons of parenting classes and read a library full of baby books or haven't done an ounce of preparation — quickly learn parenting a newborn is all about trial and error.