My father-in-law had his mother-in-law in town last weekend so he decided to pay us a visit. I, being a lucky soul, love my in-laws to bits and pieces and was thrilled to hear he was coming. Grandmas are always praised for their tenderness, caring, and endless desire to change diapers. Be our guest! But, this sometimes leaves Grandpas lurking in their shadows. read more
DearSugar and Need Some Space Stacey need your help. Her ill father-in-law has become a permanent fixture at her house three nights a week, and she's feeling bad about being annoyed. How can she handle the situation delicately?
I am writing for advice regarding a situation that is not in my control. I feel guilty feeling the way I do, and I don't want to come off as heartless. My father-in-law got very sick in January. For dialysis, he has to go to a hospital that's far from were he lives and close to where my husband and I live (we were recently married). His dad has made a habit of coming over to our house to stay the night three times a week due to his treatment appointments being at 5 a.m.
Initially I thought it was a great way of breaking up his drive, but now, it has become a problem. My father-in-law talks non-stop when he is here, while we are working (we think he is lonely). He also helps himself to our internet and our only television, and he makes his home on our couch. We are both incredibly busy high school teachers and coaches, and it's getting to the point where we hardly have time or space to ourselves.
I don't feel like I can say anything because it's disrespectful and insensitive, but deep inside, I wish he would stay with his other three children, who all live really close. Please give me advice! I'm desperate as to how to handle the situation.
—Need Some Space Stacey