Any mom who's ever dealt with diaper rash knows that it's no fun. While the most common treatment is a cream like Desitin or Aquaphor, there's now a product that aims to stop the problem before it starts. It's the (drumroll, please) Baby Butt Fan. The "world's first diapering fan," which can be yours for $20, was designed to dry off your baby's freshly wiped bottom quickly and effectively to prevent diaper rash.
A soothing, gentle breeze aimed at your baby's bum doesn't sound like such a bad idea, and preventing diaper rash is a much smarter approach than waiting until it happens to treat it. But in looking at the Baby Butt Fan, we have to ask, what's the difference between this and any other portable fan? What do you think? Is the Baby Butt Fan a gimmick or a great way to promote rash-free diaper-wearing?
I am a single mom. But not only does the title not fit, the job description falls way short of the responsibilities. There is nothing singular about anything I do. With the lives of three children in my hands 24/7, I am actually a “double parent,” one who has done double duty for more than ten years on everything from 4 a.m. fevers to wiping tears after the mean girls have inflicted pain on the playground. All this is done while treading deep financial waters, struggling not to drown and keeping a smile on my face and hope in my heart that all will be well.
Most Double Parent moms I know don’t talk about it. We don’t have pity parties (except in private) and we keep on keeping on because frankly, most people don’t get it and we’re too busy to do any explaining. We’d rather hide behind a curtain of cheerfulness than take our masks off. Our other mom friends are leery of looking into our mirror, maybe afraid of the anxiety behind it, or that our “condition” might be contagious. So we just smile and pretend that somehow we fit into their world.
We live in a secret sorority without a safety net. There is no owner’s manual, but there is an unwritten set of rules for meeting this logistical challenge of the heart, calendar, and checkbook. Here are the basics:
1. Make "I Got You" Your Mantra
One of most important things I strive to do for my children is to let them know that they are loved completely. “I got uou,” has become my mantra. I want to guard them like I am a lion. I am the one who runs alongside them and cheers them like they are learning to ride a bike without training wheels. I'm also the one who bandages the scraped knee if they fall. In two-parent families, one parent says "fly!" and the other wipes up the mess. I say both.
2. Make Your Home a Sanctuary
There’s a rule (or several of them) in our house about having respect and being kind to each other. No matter what mud the world flings at my kids, I have insisted that our home is a safe place physically, emotionally and spiritually. Certain behaviors are unacceptable and I am a Mother Bear at the entrance to the cave when anyone threatens to invade. You have to be thick-skinned even when you feel like The Velveteen Rabbit.
3. Teach Your Kids to Strive
“Teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea,” is a phrase I’ve adopted from one of my favorite authors, Antoine de Saint-Exupery. At the risk of sounding crude, the reality of their lives on some days is pretty sucky, especially when they are comparing themselves to the perceived Hallmark card-perfect families living in our neighborhood. They speak of the things we don’t have: expensive vacations; designer clothes and handbags; all “the stuff” their friends have because “their parents aren’t divorced.” I can’t give them the things, but I do try to teach them to strive for their dreams.
Your kids are first. Period. That’s why you can’t hang out, or go to a movie, or join the girls for the weekend spa retreat, even if your friends don’t understand. You need to stay laser focused, working at multiple jobs and freelance gigs to piece together the funds for college tuitions, travel soccer fees, dentist bills, a broken furnace, and the incidentals like book fees and prom dresses. To say that Double Parent moms need to be single-minded about their priorities is to understate.
Sometimes, when so much of what “is supposed to be” is stripped away and the vision of what you thought life as mom and wife would be is a tad smeared, your focus becomes more clear. Becoming a Double Parent makes you reinvent. I hope that by challenging myself in a half-marathon, enrolling in classes to learn new career skills, or burning the midnight oil to do that "third job," I am helping my children to see the world through a sense of wonder and curiosity about what can be, and how it is within their power to work hard and create that for themselves.
6. Be Flexible
You've also got to become a master of improvising. It it takes three jobs to pay for healthcare, so be it. If the children were supposed to be with their other parent and they arrive home four hours earlier than planned, better be waiting. Always be ready to think outside the box and turn on a dime.
7. This Too Will Pass
On the days when you have to pull yourself (or them) up from the mat, it’s important to remember that this, too will pass and it will get better. Pick yourself up and just keep on moving toward your goals: raising happy, healthy kids. You have to keep reminding yourself – and hoping – that your hard work and resilience is making an impact.
8. Bite Your Tongue
It’s not their fault, because think about it, before you became a Double Parent, would you have ever imagined or predicted that the babies you were holding in your arms and the hopes for family you yearned for would have played out this way? Highly doubtful. So, like me, you may sometimes have to struggle to bite your tongue (or hold in your tears) when friends, neighbors or auxiliary people you bump into at the ballet recital inquire: “Do you still live in the house?” “How do you do it on one income?” Or my favorite, which came out of the mouth of a counselor: “Well you chose to be a single mom. I'm a widow, I didn't have a choice." Or, “Blank Name’s (your ex's) wife is so nice, and their little kid is so cute.” Clamp it.
9. Don’t Wallow in Self Pity
There is too much work to do to stage a pity party. You don’t have time to become devoured by the circumstances or sink into terrifying feelings. But most Double Parents I know don’t even enter that zone. They’re go-getters who face their lives with guts and gusto.
10. Count Your Blessings
Enough said. You just have to be. Whatever your reinvented family needs, whether it is food, enough money, enough love or a pep talk – you figure out how to get it and make it happen. Ultimately, despite everything, you have to hang on to one thing that is for certain: double parenting comes with double the rewards.
It's kind of a two-for-one when it comes to love and living a life of purpose. Circle of Moms member Ashley G. sums it up profoundly: "You have to believe that they (your children) will know who read the stories, sat through the homework, kissed the booboos, cuddled when they were sick, held them when they cried, comforted during nightmares, and was just there in general. It is these small things that make them know that they are truly loved, even if they are too young to realize that right now.”
What has been your biggest challenge as a Double Parent?
*Caveat: In no way am I trying to diminish the role of moms who are married or who have loving (and not loving partners) and or single moms who have engaged and helpful ex's. This article is meant to describe the league of moms who for whatever reasons have to go it alone without much support. It is also for moms with a partner or an ex who does not support their efforts or who undermines them.
The views expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of, and should not be attributed to, POPSUGAR.
Is the diaper rash cream you're using doing its job? To help you find the right remedy for your little one, we asked Circle of Moms members to name the best diaper rash creams on the market. More than 300 moms responded, and while there wasn't a unanimous favorite, all 13 of the following diaper rash creams got rave reviews from numerous moms.
“The greatest butt paste out there! It's like the "magic" eraser of all diaper rash cream! Literally her rash would be gone in one use.” -April H.
2. Triple Paste
“I use Triple Paste on my son. He had some terrible rashes when he was teething, looked like burns. I put Triple Paste on super thick at night and by morning it was gone.” - Jennifer J.
“I think that Sudocrem rocks. Any time my Luci had diaper rash, it worked on the first application, and I have recommended it to many of my friends, and same thing for them!” -Brenna U.
4. Dr. Smith’s
“My little girl had the worst diaper rash that we could not get to go away. I tried everything available and nothing worked like Dr Smith's. It's a little hard to find but we figured out the secret...they keep it behind the counter at the pharmacy in Target. If they're out, they'll order more and have it there in a day for you.” -Jeannine G.
"I love the Arbonne ABC Diaper Rash Cream, it has some great healing and pain helping herbs in it (with no mineral oil).” -Dionne R.
“I swear by the Burt’s Bees diaper cream! I'm all about being natural and it is hands down the most effective at clearing up diaper rash. My daughter got open sores on her bottom from citrus fruits and I would load it on and the open sores would be gone in no time. AND it smells so darn good!” -Sara M.
7. Bag Balm
“Bag Balm is the best thing you can get for diaper rash, I think. I have 5 children and have used it with 4 of them. It works wonders. Our children get really bad diaper rash, to the point where they are so raw and the skin is horribly broken open. Within a couple of hours a really sore and bleeding bum is healed. I love it!” -Tina A.
“This is what works best for my daughter, she gets rashes quickly and they are so pale the daycare doesn't notice them until they are pretty bad. If I can get her to cooperate for frequent diaper changes this stuff works very well.” -Kelly K.
“We swear by Weleda Calendula Nappy Cream, our daughter is three and while she was a baby it prevented any rash, now it clears up any starting or rash between nappy changes....best cream ever, we recommend it to everyone we know. :)” -Denise
“Desitin has always worked great on my daughter. It is just like they say. It goes away in one use.” -Wendy W.
“My daughter has extremely dry skin and our doc gave us a prescription for Aquaphor to use as an alternative to lotion. I know you can buy it over the counter also. But it works wonders on rash too!! Its colorless and odorless so it doesn't irritate the skin. -Amanda H.
“A&D always works wonders for my three...It's great for healing.” –Jill F.
“Works fast and is soothing, especially for newborn extra sensitive skin!” –Cobey D.
Ouch! Diaper rash is a true pain in the bum—and as common as ants at a picnic. Caused by factors that include extended wetness, diarrhea, diet, and allergies, it shows up as inflamed, bright red skin on a baby’s rear end. Thankfully, over a thousand Circle of Moms members have shared their tricks for banishing the pesky rash, and here we're sharing 7 of the best.
1. Open Airtime
“The best remedy for diaper rash is to let your little one be diaper free for a few hours throughout the day,” advises Yesenia S., one of numerous Circle of Moms members who stress that open-air playtime is the fastest way to heal diaper rash.
2. Frequent Diaper Changes
Diaper rash is commonly linked to continuously wet diapers, so frequent changes are essential to prevention and healing. As Asawari S. recommends: “Make sure you change the diaper every 3 hours as a rule. The acidity of the wet diaper will add to the rash.”
Every baby is different, so it’s no surprise that moms tout many different diaper rash creams as miracle workers. Still, some products receive consistently high marks, including Melanie B.’s favorite brand: Triple Paste. "It is THE BEST on the market…Both my daughters have eczema and sensitive skin, so Triple Paste has been a lifesaver, or should I say, a butt saver.” Others agree with mother-of-two Jessica S.: “I like the Bourdreaux Butt Paste, and not just for the funny name! It works better than anything else I’ve tried, and it’s really gentle on her skin. A lot of the other ones seem to burn if she has a bad rash.” Additional popular remedies include mixtures with Maalox (to neutralize the acid in your bub’s nether regions), or good old Vaseline.
4. Baking Soda and Corn Starch
If over-the-counter ointments prove unsuccessful, consider raiding your cupboard. Many moms swear by baking soda baths, while others like Lora J. recommend corn starch: “An old remedy is corn starch straight outta the box. It coats and soothes all in one.” Note, however, that if a yeast infection is involved, corn starch will worsen the situation.
5. Switch Baby Wipes and Diapers
“You may want to try different wipes and diapers,” suggested mother-of-three Stephanie S. “There may be an allergy issue. My LO is allergic to all but Huggies Supreme and 7th Generation.” Kim N. agreed: “Be careful about the wipes you are using during changing. If they are fragranced or infused with alcohol, they will irritate his skin even more.”
6. Check Baby's Diet—and Yours
Diaper rash often develops after a baby is introduced to solid foods, or when a breast-feeding mom eats certain foods. As Christine N. shared: “When my babies had bad nappy rash I tried to limit the amount of dairy products they ate as these tended to make them worse.” Acidic foods, such as citrus juices, are another common culprit.
7. Rule Out Other Infections
Be sure to consult your pediatrician if diaper rash lingers, spreads beyond the diaper area, or is accompanied by fever, blisters, boils, pus or weeping discharge. The rash may actually be a yeast or fungal infection, thrush or eczema.
Recently I've made the switch from A&D/Desitin to Butt Paste and I must say I love it! For my daughter's bottom of course! All the other diaper rash creams I've tried have such a weird Vasline-y or powderish smell, which I hate.
After trying this one, I am happy to say that it's a keeper and no not just because of the smell, but because it actually works well. Just minutes after applying some on my daughter's bottom her rash almost instantly disappeared, which was great because she had a very bad diaper rash due to her teething.
Now Mya's bottom smells lovely and is free and clear of diaper rash! Have any mommies tried Butt Paste before? If so what do you think of it?
A baby's bottom may be the epitome of softness, but the tender skin can be pretty sensitive when suffering from diaper rash. The prickly red dots can wreak havoc on a newborn and send mama searching for remedies. Before purchasing fancy potions, check out these all natural (inexpensive) treatments.
It is torture to watch a babe with a bloody bumpy bottom writhe in pain. Every time they relieve themselves, it becomes a fire drill for the mom as she scurries to change the tot at record pace. While many parents would try just about anything to rid their child of such a situation, there are natural remedies to put a stop to the redness.
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You can't judge a book by its cover, but can you pick on a product line because of its name? LeastLikely2Breed sells a line of remedies ($6 - $18) for expectant and new mamas. From stretch mark potion to nipple salve and hemorrhoid ointment to vaginal jelly, there's even some diaper rash balm for baby. But the names of the products are another story. In your ninth month of pregnancy, would you find humor or insult in rubbing Whale Oil ($12) on your big belly?