Go to your room and get busy! LilSugar's bringing sexy back in a big way this Valentine's Day. Here are some fun ideas to get you and hubby back in the sack. And celebrating the love long beyond this holiday!
Once mom and dad are back in the sack and getting physical regularly, they need to find ways to connect on a daily basis. In the rush to get the kids off to school, work done, everyone fed, bathed and into bed at a decent hour, few parents have the energy to do much more. Small actions and gestures here and there can help spark excitement and ignite anticipation for your next romantic rendezvous.
A light touch, in a conspicuous spot, can tell your partner you are thinking about them without ever saying a word.
Leave a voicemail at the beginning of the week telling your partner how excited you are for weekend plans.
Go about your daily errands, but keep your next horizontal tango in mind. Going to the pharmacy? Pick up a new lubricant. Going to the mall for a new pack of onesies? Stop by the lingerie store and get a little outfit. Grab groceries at the store and add some pourable chocolate to the list.
Once you've conquered your first time back in the saddle, it's time to focus on gaining – and maintaining – momentum. Between a lil one's unpredictable sleep schedule, your return to the working world and daily activities, it's a wonder moms can even keep up.
Sleep-deprived mamas and cozy beds don't equal great sex. "When you're the mom of a small baby, you're probably running on fumes . . . you are much more likely to enjoy sex, or at least stay awake during it, if you attempt it somewhere else."
Go to the videotape. Consider watching some porn together, either online or on video to get you in the mood (or at least loosen you up a bit). Or, if you are concerned about having the DVDs laying about, check out your cable subscriptions – HBO and Showtime offer plenty of shows that can get the job done.
Sexting – It's not just for teens. There has been a lot of news recently about teens' use of sexting and how dangerous it can be for them. But you are an adult, so some risque texts and a few strategic photos sent to your partner could get things going when you both get home.
Valentine's Day is not all about Hershey's kisses and lollipop adorned cards. It's about celebrating your loved one regardless of gifts, fancy dinners, balloons, or flowers. Surprise your sweetheart with one (or a few) of these tricks that will surely get your man's heart pumping.
The thought of postpartum sex can keep some new mamas from the bedroom. Thirty-six percent of LilSugar readers got busy by the time they hit the six-week mark, but another 13 percent waited until three months had passed.
Worried about the baby fat? Invest in some pieces of lingerie that will hide the offending baby pounds, and "when all else fails, pure darkness and a few drinks can remedy almost any pregnancy-induced bodily imperfection."
Nervous about getting things going after several weeks (or months) of keeping to yourself? Bring some sex games into the bedroom, "they're popular because you can add a little humor into your sex life, which is something most postpartum moms could definitely use more of."
Choose positions that give you control of the speed and level of penetration. "This way you can ease yourself back into it at your own pace."
Lube-up! Nursing can drain the body of any excess moisture, and that includes moisture down below. "Just save yourselves some trouble, invest in some lube, and be free with it . . . [just] make sure sure you put down some towels before you get hot and heavy."
Sixty-six percent of LilSugar readers said that an increased flow of blood in their systems and their raging hormones, led to amazing pregnancy sex. For those who aren't sowing their oats while expecting, use the upcoming holiday as an excuse to start.
Belly balm might prevent stretch marks, but it may also lead to things...ask your partner for a massage.
Celebrate your new Dolly Parton double Ds in a seductive top that leaves the rest up to his imagination.
Test out positions that make you feel like an acrobat.
Go commando – and let your partner in on the secret.
Many couples struggle with maintaining a healthy sex life, especially when children enter the picture. Parents are often exhausted, over-scheduled, and lacking the confidence that it takes to keep the libido pumping. NBC's new show Parenthood tackles the topic and calls out parents that resort to putting sex on their "to-do" lists. Scheduling the activity may sound unsexy and mechanical but if it keeps the fires burning at home, who are we to judge?
Tell mommy, has sex become a square you check off of your list?
Forget eating... the couple that shops together, stays together. Instead of heading out on a shopping trip all on her lonesome, mama should consider hiring a babysitter for the daytime so she and her loved one can tackle the toy tasks together. As the twosome crosses items off of Santa's list, they can enjoy a date lunch and maybe even pick up some things for each other.
Facing the crowds together without the munchkins will allow for less stress and more appreciation. Finish the day up with a warm cup of cocoa or coffee and take a walk through a festival of lights before heading home to a house full of anxious little elves.
As a follow–up to Porn for Women, the Cambridge Women's Pornography Cooperative has gifted us with another stellar publication, Porn for New Moms ($10).
As a follow–up to Porn for Women, the Cambridge Women's Pornography Cooperative has gifted us with another stellar publication, Porn for New Moms ($10).
In this mama fantasy land, daddies insist on changing diapers, wake for early morning feedings, and find a new mom sweatpants irresistible. One of the droolworthy pictures features a handsome man perched on a bathtub with a glass of wine. The accompanying text reads:
I poured your bath, and here's a glass of Chardonnay. And don't worry . . . even if it gets into the breast milk, it just helps him fall asleep faster.
Has your partner ever done anything worth being featured in this book? If so, please share in the comments below.
"Daddy! Stop hurting Mommy!" We've all heard the horror stories of baby walking in on mommy and daddy's intimate moments. At a recent playgroup, one youngster said to my daughter, "My mommy and daddy were playing doctor last night." When I looked up at the mother, she was beet red and she apologized for her child's honest confession. We laughed it off and moved on to more appropriate playground conversation. But it got me thinking, how do parents keep from getting busted between the sheets? Some lock the door during the bedtime romp while others just risk the interruption. What do you do to keep your sex life private?