First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in the baby carriage. And then they lived happily ever after, right? Research professor Scott Stanley says no. His new report reveals that out of 218 couples, a shocking 90 percent of those couples saw a demise in their marital bliss after having a child. Sound depressing? The silver lining to that black cloud is that the childless are also apparently experiencing "diminished martial quality." To see what else the study says, read more.
The difference, he says, is this:
Having a baby accelerates the deterioration, especially seen during periods of adjustment right after the birth of a child.
I feel much better knowing I am doomed to misery. But really, what can we learn from this? Should couples forgo children if they want to keep their blithe relationship? I'm starting to think all of those Tinseltown parents are onto something... marriage after baby. If people marry each other after having gone through the growing pains of parenting, the bar is set lower from the beginning so maybe the misery is lessened all together. Can we get Brad and Angelina to give us some input on this one?
Tell mommy, was your relationship with your partner better sans children or now with a family?