Telling Your Husband About Miscarriage

Is It Wrong For Woman to Keep Miscarriage From Husband?

September 24, 2010

A miscarriage affects more than the mother. In last night's "With You I'm Born Again" season opener of Grey's Anatomy, the staff of Seattle Grace copes with the physical and emotional effects of the hospital's mass murder. While Derek opts for living hard, Meredith keeps a secret. She has yet to tell her husband that she had a miscarriage or that she was pregnant. Does a woman mourning a miscarriage have the right to keep it to herself or does the would-have-been father deserve to know?
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2 years

I don't know what happened on Gray's, I don't watch TV, but I do know what happened when I had a miscarriage. I didn't want to tell anyone. I wanted to keep it too myself, and grow from it. I later did tell my boyfriend and a few friends, when I needed support, also when I began to heal. But I don't feel that I had to tell anyone what happened. In my case I did not even know I was pregnant until I miscarried. It's a hard choice to make keeping something like this to yourself, but sometimes, you have to make that choice. I don't think she should have said anything until she was ready or at least comfortable with the words, because I know it's not easy. Not the first time, not ever.

POPSUGAR Moms 2 years

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starbucks 2 years

How is that even a question? First, the husband deserves to know. It's his baby, too (we seem to forget that here on LilSugar nowadays...) Secondly, I think it's important to talk about your loss. If you had a still birth or your child died you would talk about it, wouldn't you?

WarEagleNurse 2 years

Yes

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