Teen Mom: Maci Sees Ryan's New Girlfriend When He Drops Off Bentley

Teen Mom: Should Ryan Have His Girlfriend Around Bentley?

August 4, 2010

Ryan didn't plan on becoming a dad, but he is one. In last night's episode of Teen Mom, Ryan had a new Valentine in the car when he dropped Bentley off at Maci's house. Maci's mom said she didn't think her grandchild needed to meet any of his parents' love interests until it got serious. What's your opinion?

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2 years 35 weeks

hi my name Karla Wilson are you OK?

blooditsnotfunny 2 years 40 weeks

I might have had a different opinion after seeing last week's valentines episode. I thought that was kind of like a slap in Maci's face, bringing his girlfriend over to drop off Bentley on valentine's day. But after this latest episode, where the girlfriend showed that she cared about Bentley and even told Maci that he had hit his mouth, I think it's good for her to be around Bentley. She seems much more caring than Ryan, so at least Bentley still feels loved and has someone watching out for him while he's with Ryan.

MuppetsForDinner 2 years 41 weeks

As a daughter of a single mom, I used to have nightmares about my mom getting married and leaving me. I think that if she would have brought dates around I would have totally freaked out. I remember one time when I was around 8 that we did go get ice cream with a guy she was dating and I hated it. I felt like I was on display and when they broke up, I secretly wondered if it was because he didn't like me. On the other side, my dad's wife died when I was 16 and the NEXT time I went out to visit, he introduced me to a NEW woman he was getting married to. They eventually broke it off because, in his words, she didn't want to deal with his children (I also have three younger half-siblings) if something were to happen to him. Don't do this to your children. Leave them out of it and introduce only as "friends" until you are engaged and are sure you will marry.

Girl Jen 2 years 41 weeks

Good point, anonymous. There's a huge difference between "This is my friend" and "This is my new boyfriend and he's gonna be your new daddy and I love him so much even though we just hooked up a week ago." I have introduced my daughter to male friends. I see no problem with it. I have no love interests, nor am I looking for any...but if that time comes when I'm in a serious relationship, I'll introduce the man in my life slowly, and only after we've been seeing each other for a very long time.

untitled 2 years 41 weeks

Definitely only when it's serious. I work with kids and I've seen kids devastated after their parents broke up with their new significant other. In this case it had been serious, but kids can get close to people without it being serious so when the relationship ends it can feel like divorce for your kids all over again.

2 years 41 weeks

I haven't seen the program, but I think that it's all about how it's presented. If Ryan only introduced her to Bentley saying "this is my friend X" and kept all intimacy for when they were alone (he may only just have picked her up when he was leaving Bentley, anyone thought of that?). I am quite sure that's how my parents introduced their new significant others to me (can't remember how my father introduced my stepmother). I think you should introduce your boyfriend/girlfriend to your children, not as love interests until you are sure about the relationship, but as friends (even kids know that you sometime spend more time with one friend or another, and that friends sometimes fall out and stop seeing each other), and you should avoid any PDA (except for a friendly hug or so when you meet or feel sad) before you are absolutely sure it is a serious relationship. I definitely think it's better that new partners are introduced gradually as a friend, and then told by the parent that they had grown to love this person so much that they wanted him/her to be part of their family. This way the parent will have had time to see how the child/children and new partner interact and the child will have had time to get used to this new person. I had a friend whose mother came home one day and introduced his "new father" and told him that they were getting married 3 months later (they had been dating for over a year, but she had never introduced him), and let me tell you, it was quite a nasty shock to him, and his relationship with his mother never got quite the same again. Oddly enough his relationship with his step dad became quite good since they have a lot of common interests, and he is still in touch with him even though his mother and stepfather divorced years ago!

Tamma1387 2 years 41 weeks

Ok, not to get up on my high horse or anything, but I was(am? Im 23 now) a teen mom. Fortunately for my daughter's sake, her dad and I ended our dysfunction relationship when she was 4 months old. I started dating the man who is now my husband and even though she was so young, the first time he ever really spent time with her wasn't until she was about a year old. I wanted to take it slow because we were young and wasn't planning on anything serious (ha ha). But my daughter did not need a floosie mother who brought home any guy that looked at her. With that being said, that boy does not need to be bringing random women around his son. It is going to set a bad example of how to treat women for that baby when he is older. wow that was a rant!

starbucks 2 years 41 weeks

I have a new friend who just moved in with her boyfriend a couple of months ago. They had been dating for 2 months (!!!) when she moved and she brought her then 10months old son with her. He is now calling him daddy. They have a disfunctional relationship and will either break up soon or keep on being a bad example of love to that poor boy. Because of seeing that we have talked about that. We have no intention of ever breaking up, but agree that if it was to ever happen we would not only be dating the other person for at least half a year before meeting our child, we would also let the other one know about it. I have a right to know who my child associates with.

Studio16 2 years 41 weeks

Forgot to add - I think that men (not Ryan, but fathers who actually seem to care) have every right to meet the men that their children's mothers are seeing and decide if they want their kids around these guys. It's a two way street, women don't get to wield all the power!

Studio16 2 years 41 weeks

Agreed. Maci has every right as a mother to meet the new lady in Ryan's life. In more general terms, I think kids should only meet their parents' significant others - and by significant, I mean dating at least six months. I have a cousin who met every Tom, Dick, and Harry that came into his mom's life and he finally got sick of it, not to mention he was heartbroken every time the guys he did like would stop coming around. *I will add that if I were Maci, I would fight for full custody of Bentley. Ryan's immature and gross, and in my opinion, just not father material.

mstrauss 2 years 41 weeks

I'm sure Ryan isn't thinking about how it will affect his child since he is probably thinking that this girlfriend won't be Bentley's new mommy anyways. Since he is just dating casually, he probably didn't even think twice about the confusion his son might have. It is just stupidity on his part. And I agree with Christne that if Ryan wants to bring a girlfriend around Beltley, Maci needs to meet her first.

Chrstne 2 years 41 weeks

I agree that kids should only meet serious significant others. Dating for a couple of weeks or days is not serious. Ryan should also introduce his girlfriend to Maci, it's her son, and she has every right to know who the hell her son is spending time with, and decide if she wants Bentley around that person.

skigurl 2 years 41 weeks

Kids should only meet serious significant others, and sometimes tells me at his age and maturity level, and with his relationship history, I doubt this girl is anything but serious.

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