Rude Things People Say to Pregnant Women

Babysugar Diaries: Twins?

August 11, 2008

Adults say the darnedest things. The other day I shared an elevator with a woman who looked at me and asked, "So when are you due?" Breaking a smile I said, "Thanksgiving Day!" She looked at me and said, "Whoa! Twins?" I replied, "No. Just one." Used to insults from my last pregnancy, I left the store thinking that I don't care if I gain a whole bunch of weight as long as I have a healthy baby. But, it would be nice if people would keep their thoughts to themselves.

People aim some of the rudest comments at childbearing women. During my first pregnancy, one lady said to me, "I can tell it is going to be a girl by the way you're coming out on the sides." Who says that? What was the worst thing someone said to you while you were pregnant?
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ERAY 2 years 7 weeks

Im 37 weeks pregnant and my daughter just turned a year. My boyfriend and I were not planning on having another so soon, however I got an IUD and it fell out without my knowledge, so here we are, again, a year later. So needless to say I got tons of unwanted comments. The one that bothered me the most though was, "Are you going to get your tubes tied?" It really hurt my feelings. No one would have asked that if we had the babies 5 years apart.

2 years 19 weeks

I get so sick of people commenting on how my body is "never gonna be the same!" while giving me a satisfied smirk. I am a small woman in my early 20s, and even in my sixth month I'm barely starting to show. I'm hardly about to break the scale and have always been healthy and active. What possesses women to be so mean to other women? I would never say something like that to someone else.

2 years 23 weeks

I know some of this is pretty much the usual, but upon announcing our third pregnancy we heard, "Don't you know how this happens?" to which my husband said, "No . . . please tell us!" "Shut the barn door!" "Not everyone has to be the Duggars, you know." "Y'all are crazy! Congratulations!" (at least they threw in congratulations, but really? Why not leave out the crazy part?) "What the hell?" and then all from one person we heard: "I'm so worried about your finances . . ." (she was worried about them when we got married and with the first two, so this shouldn't have been a shocker." "I am already so stressed trying to keep up with three grandchildren, how am I possibly going to keep up with four?" (Ummm . . . this should be harder on us than on you since three of them will LIVE with us! And WE'RE not complaining!) "I just don't know how I'm going to divide the inheritance!" (Every time we have a baby she has to refigure it.) "The more children you have, the worse of a parent you'll be." (Thanks. My mom had 8 kids. Now I know how you feel about things!) "Would one of you consider having surgery?" (My FAVORITE!!!) ALL of this was said within a week's time and ALL for one pregnancy. Sad, sad, SAD society we live in. I was taught to say "Congratulations," and if I couldn't say anything nice about it, I left it at that!

2 years 31 weeks

A co-worker continues to say every time she looks at my belly (which is almost daily) "your so big, can I tell you I was never that big with my two". She has said this right from the start even as early as two months. I want to tell her "oh you must have been so worried about your babies health, what did the doctors think?" but I politely say "I love my big belly, it makes me smile every time I look at it" which it true since I have had a miscarriage. I try to remind myself that rude comments like this only come from insecurity but it still hurts that someone would be so rude on purpose.

3 years 6 weeks

Here are a few idiot comments I've received: "It must be nice not to have your period for 9 months" to which I responded: "Ya, but the 9 months of PMS sure sucks" "Wow, it must be like there is an alien in your belly when the baby starts kicking" To which I cannot reply, because that is just so weird and stupid, that a look of 'you can't help being stupid, can you" usually suffices. And finally... "are you having one or two babies"? I felt like saying, "I'm not sure, if I have 2 I might sell one, or just one, how many are you having ~to someone who is just overweight", but thought better of it, and said "just one, I know it looks like two, but I amo due any day"... Bitch!! It must be the hormones, I just feel inclined to slap some people.... Its the h

3 years 8 weeks

I was at a bridal shower for a friend that I've known for 10 yrs now. As soon as I walked in the door her mom made me sign her book. As I was signing she said "are you sure your not having twins. I am only 4 1/2 months a long. We just found out it's a girl and that is the first thing she said to me! No Congratulations or even a hello! Why did she do that? I have not seen her in 2 years and that is what she said to me! I just looked at her and walked away.

3 years 46 weeks

A crowd of neighbors were guessing the sex of my baby, and one guy said he thought my baby would be a hermaphrodite. I got upset because I am of "advanced maternal age", and I had been worrying about the baby's health. This person was furious right back at me, and when I went to sit down said, "By the way, THAT'S my chair." Everyone else thought it was odd that I was upset, even stating that I was "hormonal". Needless to say, I stay away from that particular set of neighbors these days!

Mrs StClair 4 years 39 weeks

omg people are so stupid. i'd always get co-workers trying to rub my belly, i dont really remember any rude comments, but if anybody said anything like what they said to you ladies, i'd totally bitch them out!

TMommy 4 years 40 weeks

I have gotten: "Wow- That is a BIG baby in there" "Wow- You look like you're about to pop' I still had 6 weeks left. I've gotten the carrying on the side/girl thing too. But my FAVORITE: As I was drinking a container of milk one during our office birthday celebration an intelligent (so I thought), older, male, co-worker said to me across the conference room table "Are you taking it in so you can give it out later" and he made a gesture from his chest area signifying where I would be "giving it out" from. EWWWWWWWW!

TMommy 4 years 40 weeks

I have gotten:"Wow- That is a BIG baby in there""Wow- You look like you're about to pop' I still had 6 weeks left.I've gotten the carrying on the side/girl thing too.But my FAVORITE:As I was drinking a container of milk one during our office birthday celebration an intelligent (so I thought), older, male, co-worker said to me across the conference room table "Are you taking it in so you can give it out later" and he made a gesture from his chest area signifying where I would be "giving it out" from.EWWWWWWWW!

chocolatine 4 years 40 weeks

From reading the comments, I'm amazed at how rude some people are. Isn't it one of the major etiquette rules to NEVER comment on a pregnant woman's size? The only things I ever say to pregnant women is "Congratulations", "You looks radiant", "You must be so happy", etc. If I were pregnant and got a rude comment, I'd use my hormones as an excuse to say something bitchy in return.

Drea0930 4 years 40 weeks

My husband's grandmother (who hates me, incase it's not obvious after my story is over) looked at me when I was about 12 weeks along, and told me "You look huge, like you're 5 months along already, are you sure you're not having twins?" (and smirked)!!! I didn't even start showing until I was 6 months along, as I'm very tall, so the baby had a lot of room to hide. I couldn't believe it!!!!

solstrale 4 years 40 weeks

Just last week, I went to get my 18 month old's hair cut and the hairdresser looks at me and says..."Oh..I'm not sure if I should...but you must get this a lot. Are you pregnant?" I was a bit taken aback as I'm very CLEARLY pregnant. I'm 35 weeks and have the roundest belly... So I said "Yeah, due in 6 weeks." And she replied "Oh, it's hard to tell..." I'll admit that in some cases, some women don't show at all, but honestly, it's not my case. So...that was a bit rude according to me.

kikidawn 4 years 40 weeks

oh how awful keiren!

kikidawn 4 years 40 weeks

oh how awful keiren!

keiren63 4 years 40 weeks

When I got pregnant a fourth time everyone alive decided that they got to comment...and all negatively. Everyone somehow had decided for us that we were not allowed to have a fourth child. Not one person said one nice thing. One of my husband's friends said, "If you can't afford an abortion how will you afford the child." So, that was definitely the worst.

olivejuice 4 years 40 weeks

I am currently 12 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child. I haven't received any comments yet, but when a couple of men I work with found out they actually tried to lift my shirt and look at my stomach! So weird.

macgirl 4 years 40 weeks

The wife of one of our friend who was pregnant and due within a few days of me said "don't take this wrong, but you make me feel really good about my myself and my weight gain". It was my second baby and I was noticeably pregnant by week 7, this was week 13 when she said that. I only gained like 25 pounds the whole pregnancy but I am short wasted and had no where to go but out. I got the are you sure it's not twins thing ALL THE TIME. I just finally gave up and said "nope, I just make 'em big".

macgirl 4 years 40 weeks

northernbird 4 years 41 weeks

In my 8th month a man biking by called out "Looks like someone swallowed a watermelon!"

northernbird 4 years 41 weeks

In my 8th month a man biking by called out "Looks like someone swallowed a watermelon!"

babyfashionista 4 years 41 weeks

When I walked into the DMV this guy who worked there asked "Ma'am can you please leave the basketball outside?"

alidog819 4 years 41 weeks

After my friend found out she was having her third boy, someone said "Oh my god. Don't you just want to kill yourself?"She said, "ummmm, no."

alidog819 4 years 41 weeks

After my friend found out she was having her third boy, someone said "Oh my god. Don't you just want to kill yourself?" She said, "ummmm, no."

Dana18 4 years 41 weeks

I did have twins and people said all types of things to me. One woman said that I looked like I was going to pop. One guy asked is that a real, referring to my belly. One man would see me on the train everyday and would say twins to me, repeatedly!

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