When Should You Stop Walking Around in the Buff?

personally, I never walked around naked, but I guess depending on the child's gender and age I would not want him or her watching me change clothes. My daughter, I wouldn't care even now, going into a dresssing/fitting room together to try on clothes. Even bras. We are both female and I don't think it matters. But I wouldn't take me son with me after he was around 3. I think total nudity is off limits around ages 3 and up. Little babies don't know what is what, but once they start asking "whats that?" I think its time to talk to them about body parts and modesty. Not prude, just modest.

faerymajick15,
I pretty much agree with everything you said
I am 21 yrs old and I still change in front of my mom and sister. We still go in changing rooms together. I don't see a problem with it at all... as you said 'we are all females'. My sister is a little more modest about it, but we never say anything to embarrass or make fun of her for it.
I think that is what it needs to be all about. If someone's nakedness makes the kids uncomfortable they need to figure out a solution! I think people (as a whole family) need to respect everyone's feelings of modesty and nakedness.

depends on the gender, if i had a girl than never. What i loved about my mom, and my sisters is that we werent afraid to change in the same room, or streak from the bathroom to the bedroom.

I agree, I too think it depends on the gender. Except my mom was very modest around my sister and I so I was one of those girls who grew up to change in a stall instead of the locker rooms.

I think it all varies by family. My son is 5 1/2 and I still walk naked in front of him, however, I do anticipate that changing soon, more so because of how I feel, not him. My daughters are much more fascinated than he is at this point (ages 4 and almost 2), but they all know a boob is a boob is a boob and one day they'll have a set like mine. They call vaginas "vaginas" and elbows "elbows." They know penises aren't really funny because all boys have them. A penis is an elbow is an earlobe is an eyebrow is a bodypart. They're all the same. BUT, they do understand that some are a little more private than others and we just don't show people vaginas. As amazing as it is at their young age, they "get" it.

I think it depends on gender. If they are old enough to know what something is, then I would explain the anatomy, but I would always keep it covered- at least by underwear. My dad walked around in tighty-whities all the time, but I'd have been traumatized if I'd seen him nude! My mom and sister and I are all girls, so it doesn't really matter. If I had a son, I'd be careful after he was old enough to ask questions.

I'll be okay being naked in front of my daughter later than 5 years old, I reckon, because my mum always has been in front of me - although I do try not to look, particularly, I mean, not that you would look, but, I make a point of not looking. I sound VERY NEUROTIC now. I don't think I want my husband going around with his penis swinging around my daughter when she's older than 5. We may all be family, but people don't go around being naked with close friends, family isn't *that* different.

I remember seeing my dad in the bath with my mom when i was ~3 years old, but then for some reason or another that stopped soon after. I don't even remember anything about what their privates looked like or whatever, maybe because I didn't think that was important back then.
However, in elementary school I walked in my parents. All I saw was my dad's naked backside but that alone was more traumatizing, even though both times I had no idea what was going on.

i think it depends on the child. i think it's kind of important for kids to see their parent's real adult bodies, though. i believe it promotes good body image-how else will a person know what a "normal" naked body looks like if all they ever see is airbrushed victorias secret models? if one of my kids started to show that they were embarassed/uncomfortable with one of us being naked, then we would avoid that but for now, they still hop in the shower with me sometimes, and they'll be here when i give birth, etc.

erthed,
I admire how you are teaching your kids the correct terminology for all of their body parts. I can't stand it when parents don't do that. There is nothing to be ashamed about calling a penis/vagina/etc by their correct names.

I do still change in front of my mom, and she in front of me... but I was always a little freaked out by my college roommate who was from a family of girls and they'd all just run around the house in panties and nothing else in front of their dad. There are boundaries we all set, and the cross gender one is my line.

I also WHOLEHEARTEDLY encourage people being matter of fact like erthed teaching her children that there are parts of the body, they are private, and teaching the real names. First, I think my mom's educational approach made me somehow less curious about all of the stuff parents are afraid their children will be curious about. It isn't taboo, it is your body and you should be comfortable in it and know it. Second, I prosecute child sex crimes, and it can be really hard trying to figure out if something happened and what happened if a child can't say what happened because they don't even know their body.

I don't walk around naked but my son sometimes wants to take baths with me (we have a small house and he can open all doors because there are no locks). We did it when he was a new born and now that he is getting to be so verbal and aware, it makes me feel a little funny.

Other - I agree with ylatan that it depends on the child, not the gender. If the child is uncomfortable, it's time to stop. My boys are 5 and 7 and we're still fine. We don't really just walk around naked, but they can come in and ask me stuff while I'm in the shower, and I change clothes in the bathroom with the door open often. Plus I'm currently breastfeeding my daughter, so it's impossible to not show my breasts.

I dont have children yet. However I have to say other as Im not sure. In my house my mum would walk around naked after showers etc.and I was/am the same and brother does it sometimes too. However my dad never did it, Im not sure if it was for me and my brothers benefit or because he is modest.
With my children I think it will depend on the child, I will definitely do it while they are young but it depends when they are older on their attitude towards it all. My bf though just went ugh when I asked him and said he will never be... so we'll see

I think it depends on gender. My mom and I used to take baths together when I was young and we still change in front of each other it's no big deal. But I think with my son before the age of 10 is ok. I would never go walking around the house nude (we live with my in-laws also and that would be gross), but if he was say 7 and I was in the shower and he needed something I would want him to feel ok with popping his head in the bathroom door to ask. Boundries without being neurotic about it.

One should be able to be nude anywhere as long as they are not acting lewd. We do have to cotton to the wills of others however. Were one to be in the habit of living nude at home and have a child bring a friend home that is uncomfortable with the situation then one needs to respect the situation by staying scarce or putting some clothes on.

My wife and I never were modest and either, by extension, are my son and daughter. Now, close to thirty, my kids and we, still walk around naked, change in front of each other, and swim in the pool together naked. It was natural for us then, and is still is now. The kids were MUCH easier when they hit puberty and the hormones started raging. They didn't get into sexual situations with others, as there was no mystery to the opposite sex.

I look at it this way, No one should ever be ashamed of their bodies, if you are, you're saying God made something shameful. How arrogant! God didn't put the fig leaves on Adam and Eve, THEY DID! You can get that innocence back, but you have to throw off the shackles of the marketing society. I'm very pleased to see this new generation is throwing off the sins of their fathers, and fathers, and fathers, finally!

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My mother walked around in the house in front of me and my 2 sisters in various stages of undress all of our lives.Consequently us girls I did the same thing around each other, always. Never around my father or brother or outside the home.

such a big toppic. is it okay to be naked?
yes its okay. it dont matter how old you or the child is. i dont think that its okay all damn day long, every day. nore is it okay with non family members around.. it is just rude. put people in awkwert moments. however if you are just running around naked with no intent to put cloths on and your sister, brother, mom, dad asks you to get dressed then put some cloths on.. if you are in the precess of getting dressed and they have a problem with it then f*ck them. making a big deal out of nothing

no you shouldnt let you little ones run around naked. its a hard habbit to break.. i dont consider kids in dipers naked.. and who would want them naked anyways. thats not a place i would want to be at.. "watch where you step"

As a gay nudist, I am in total support of never wearing clothes in the house whatever their age. No one should ever feel ashamed but instead proud of being nude privately or publicly!!

I am not gay nor a nudist, but other than that I tend to agree with Kimmer. Whats wrong with being nude? I have kids of both genders and they have seen me in all states of dress or undress, as have most of my friends and family, both genders.

I stopped allowing my son to see me naked once he turned 5 years old. I've never stopped allowing my 2 daughters to see me naked, and I don't see any reason to. If I'm getting out of the shower and drying off and one of my daughters needs to come into the bathroom I don't feel any need to grab a robe or anything like that. I don't want them growing up to think that the female body is a shameful thing. Their ages 12 and 16 and they are still comfortable with me or each other seeing them in the nude, and also with showering and changing at the Y on family swim night.

It's weird how people think nudity among same gender is fine. It may be but you are making your 'other' kids wonder what hey are hiding!

I have no comments about whether nidity is ok or not. But make sure you treate your kids equally regardless of their gender!

I am a woman in my early thirties and I have no children of my own, but growing up I can state that nudity around my parents was quite common. I showered with my mother most of the time before age 9 (I hated to shower alone, probably afraid of the hot water.) There were plenty of occasions when I would shower with my father. He certainly never pranced around the house nude, nor was he overtly sexual with me in any way. It was just completely natural and normal for us to be naked together in the shower on occasion. I don't see anything wrong with it, in fact- it was quite enjoyable. Is the sight of a male penis going to warp the mind of young girl? It's all about control and respect. When family members have it, casual nudity, even cross gender, is no big deal. When I hit my teens, I was less comfortable being nude in front of both parents, nothing more than natural modesty.

I was a naturist before I married 23 years ago. I have hidden it behind the bedroom door for all these years. I wanted to raise the kids as naturists but the wife felt that would be perverted. I am still only a naturalist in the bedroom and do nothing sexual or perverse. Being a naturist is clean and not evil. My wife wants me to never walk around the house nude. I can't even go out of the bedroom nude even if I am home alone. I am thinking that it would be best for my wife and I to live under different roofs. Obviously she and I don't see living standards the same. Does anyone have any ideas. I don't want any evil suggestions. I am a peaceful person and I am searching for a peaceful solution without having to divorce her.

It all depends on the sex.

I dont think a dad should let his daughter see him naked after about 3 and same for a mother and son.

But the same sex is fine. I think that nudity is more important for father and sons and can happen to what ever age they want

Why do people think that it is alright to see them naked just because they are the same gender? To me, it doesn't matter what the gender of the person is, if I am uncomfortable to be naked in front of people. People are people regardless of gender.

I remember when I was 17 and I was at my girlfriend's house, upstairs in her bedroom; her 9-year-old brother came out of the bathroom nude and walked into the room. I assumed he didn't know I was there, so I pretended to be tying my shoe. I thought he would see me and not come in. But he walked in and said "I don't have any clean pajamas." My friend went to get her little brother's pajamas from the laundry room, and he stayed there looking at the TV and talking to me. I was a little uncomfortable, but it seemed so innocent also. Different family customs from mine

Are you a Boy/Girl? Girl
Age? 14
Do you mind being seen naked in the showers/locker-room? not really
Your age the last time your parents saw you nude? 12
Who was it? Mom
How much of you did they see? I don't know-Everything....but only a little glimpse of my bottom, all of my boobs
How did it happen? I was in the bath and I accidentally pushed the thing to drain the water. My mom was in the bathroom getting something so I asked if she could replug it because I was having trouble. She opened the curtain and did....I was sitting in the tub also trying to get the plug back down.
Did you mind? Not really....
When was the last time you saw your parents nude? 11
Who was it? Mom
How much did you see? boobs
Your age the last time your brothers / sisters saw you nude? 13
Who was it? sister
What age were they? 9
How much of you did they see? Boobs
How did it happen? My shirt got wet so I needed to change. I took my shirt off in front of her, put it in the dryer, then went to get a new one.
Did you mind? Not really....
What age were they the last time you saw them nude? Today
Who was it? Sister
How much did you see? Boobs
How did it happen? She changed her top in front of me

I got these questions from a survery thing....

I think it's really depends because im a guy and am 19 years old right now and I remember that i used to take a bath with my sister when going to school to save time (cause we might get late) until I was 13 and she was 15 and we dont mind it at all besides, she's my sister after all...

A Dad Here:
First of all I notice its usually females who are pro nudity or more liberal shall we say on the subject. I also notice that nude boys are generally
more acceptable than nude girls. Personally, I personally want you to keep your nudity confined to your homes. I and my family do not wish to see your naked kids!!! If I want my son or daughter to get an anatomy lesson I will take care of this myself, I don't need you shoving your idealism in my face!!!!! And I might also add, I would be furious if my kids went to someones house and they allowed my kids or theirs to go nude, it would be the last time I can assure you!!!

In my country in popular levels of the society the people come around totally nude mother father kids and relatives and they don t have any problem I think is not a big deal is only a cultural stuff You can see here girls 12 or 13 y/o totally nude and boys too but no more. The men yes but no girls.Of course this only at home. Maybe at some beaches

When I was growing up with my 2 sisters and my mom it was quite normal to me being in various states of undress or totally naked in front
of each other.

As a teen I clearly remember my 2 sisters and I trying to get ready for school in the morning with one of us in the shower, one on the bowl and one doing her hair in front of the mirror, and my mom would go in and out as needed.

I would see my mom in her bra and panties or nude at least once a week.

I would never let my dad see me nude, but thought nothing of him seeing me in my underwear.

Recently I shared a room with my mom( who's 54 now and i am 31) for a family event and we saw each other nude after many years and had a few girlish giggles regarding our changing body's.

I think it would be okay to walk around naked, however, if your child doesn't like this, it's time to stop, I say this because they are going to find out sooner or later, but you could let them find out themselves.

i am a boy..
i had "sex" with my cousin when we were 7/8......well you cant call it real sex....but still.....
only my parents saw me naked....but not after i turned 7/8.....
no one else saw me nude
i will never run around nude in my house....in front of anyone

I am a 23 years old man, and I enjoy be naked in home when there is no one around, it is just great. I think, when I get married it would be the same, if my wife is agree with it, if she isn't, I'll talk her into, I hope so.

About been naked around the kids, I agree with all that said that it is OK till they child has 3 or 4 years old, not matter the gender, because, to me, like man it is a little bit uncomfortable, I want to have a girl, and it isn't OK been naked in front of her.

why would you walk around naked anyway?

What would you think if your husband was "shy" around you but strutted his stuff around your girl (toddler). Would never allow you to walk in on him using the bathroom but has no problem letting the little girl in. I think if being nude is acceptable in a household is one thing, but what if it seems that someone is "exposing" themselves to the child.

ok, so this is SOO TRUE. I am not some pervert trying to look up naked crap or what ever, because i have a BAD BAD problem here. so i am a 12 year old girl and my parents were divorced and my mom (who i live with) got together with another man. Well, its been maybe 4 years, and my mom suddenly started walking around the house naked, ALL THE TIME. ok yeah i no about "certain things" at "certain times" (night time) and yeah. ok yeah i guess i got used to the fact that they havve a kid and junk what ever. but now i no when they are...enjoying themselfs. How do i stop this.

I am a 19 years old boy, and I enjoy be naked in home when there is no one around, it is just great. I think, when I get married it would be the same, if my wife is agree with it, if she isn't, I'll talk her into, I hope so...

i hav also seen my sis naked many tyms...

It really depends on the family and how you were raised. I am not sure there is an absolute right or wrong. I grew up with 1 brother and 1 sister, we did not prance around the house nude as a rule but we also did not care either. We all took showers with our parents up to about maybe 10 or 11. Neither of our parents cared about being nude in front of us kids I guess we thought it was natural. Even as teens we would occasionally see each other changing, coming from the shower or running through the house for some reason.
Years later when I married my wife and I walked around the house nude on occasion for one reason or another until we split and our daughter was 16 at the time. My daughter did the same although less as she got older. To this day when my daughter stays at my place ( she is 25 now) she has no problem walking around in here bra and panties. I don't think I have seen her in the buff since she was about 17.
However I will never forget the first time my mother came out west and spent a week or so with us. I came out of the shower in our bedroom realized my sweats were most likely in the laundry room. I came through the family room nude on my way to the laundry room, my wife and mother were sitting there. I thought nothing of it ,having grown up that way and since we did that kind of a thing in our house at that time. However my wife was a bit pissed and thought that I should not be walking around in front of my mother with no clothes on.
So as I said I do not think there are any real rules for all situations.

I grew up in a fairly strick family that restricted cross gender nudity. As I have gotten older I have realized that within the family it's not such a big deal. I see no problem within family units for members to see each other in various stages of undress or nude. The key is to teach respect for each other and respect for themselves. In today's society I have found that we carry too much of the 'Victorian Morals' which would have us hide everything from everyone. I don't agree with public nudity, but within the family I see no problem. Most of the world, and most of our ancestors in centuries past lived in one room lodgings where exposure was virtually assured and they never had problems like we do today. The problem is more of how we treat it and the disrespect we show for each other and our bodies. I just wish that I had learned years ago so that I could have raised my family in a much more relaxed and open environment.