Is More Expected of Mothers?

February 10, 2008

As women, our children are with us from the moment of conception. But, does a mama's role as the parent "that carries the load" end with delivery?

Or do you think that society, even in this modern day, holds a higher standard for mothers than fathers?

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wingedkiare 5 years 13 weeks

More is expected of mothers, absolutely. I just spent a couple days around a lot of family with my two kids. And when the toddler acted up? I was the one who got the 'aren't you going to do something' looks. My husband got the sympathy.

chicchick 5 years 13 weeks

Wow! Those Mom Jeans are something else! And I agree with Suga Mumma, the Belly Band is the best!

rgrl 5 years 13 weeks

I was thinking more of if a man is in public with a fussy child, I think he would get more sympathetic looks from other women, where a woman might actually get some judgemental looks. I think women are the ones holding other moms to higher standards than dads, I might even be a bit guilty of it myself. I would probably give a dad more slack. :?

LiLRuck44 5 years 13 weeks

I should have been born 80 years ago. I still love the idea that Moms should be the ones staying home and raising the kids. My husband isn't the typical man though, he's as much of a mother to our kids as I am. Didn't the old school of thought go something like Dad = disciplinarian, Mom = sweet, loving chef and tucker-inner? How come my kids run to him when they know they're in trouble?

ktownpolarbear 5 years 13 weeks

no doubt about it. mothers are held to a way higher standard than fathers.

millarci 5 years 13 weeks

I think more is expected of moms, but I just think it's because women can handle it better. ;)

Kristinh1012 5 years 13 weeks

I don't even want to comment on this. Cause I could go on and on and on about it.

alllacedup 5 years 13 weeks

I think more is expected of mom's. But I think in general more is expected from parents now then before. You're expected to take your kids to all sorts of activities and be involved with their lives. But mom's might be held to a higher standard. For example, if a mom leaves her kids it's "Oh she's a horrible woman." But if a man leaves, it's "He's a guy."

suga mumma 5 years 13 weeks

whoops..having a 'mummy moment' (aka, blank) just realised u were talking about the pic up above not pregnancy jeans lol i think i better get to bed then (2am here..) sorry!

suga mumma 5 years 13 weeks

LMAO!! well, the ones with the built it elastic band are, the ones where it sort of ruffles around te belt area....horrible horrible things... thats why i bought a belly band!!! best thing EVER invented! i got to wear my normal jeans right through without the zip up or anything (and my crack showing!) and nobody knew any different! yey!

ccsugar 5 years 13 weeks

Ewww those mom jeans are horrible!

suga mumma 5 years 13 weeks

i most certainly agree on this one! i gave birth to a beautiful (ok, all babys are beautiful!) baby girl 4 months ago, my husband works for australias biggest casino as a table dealer which requires him to either work from 10am-10pm or 8pm-4 0r 6am! because of this, whenever he is home he needs to sleep so he can be able to be awake for his next shift! so im required to care for our daughter on top of dealing with a complex sleeping disorder (no official name yet, studies still being done) where i have severe insomnia, but every night around 8 i get extreme adrennaline rush's. so long story short, the more i go without sleep the more energy i get so more days i spend awake! yet i still suffer the exhaustion! all this and i am still expected to be a full time mother of a refux baby, study part time and work a day a week! oh! and i CANT forget to invite the family over atleast twice a week.. worst of all.... god forbid i wear trackies to the shops! LMAO how many mothers here can honestly say they havnt felt pressured to still look fabulous dispite the exhaustion of child rearing! honestly society expects far too much of woman (and look down upon young mothers, seriously im having them late compared to our grandparents!)when will this generation give us a little slack and stop expecting us to be the way it was back in the 1920's! back then wages went further, so it was a little easier to look after children on one wage. now, it is a nessesity that most mothers have to make 80% of the sacrifice compared to fathers (eg. going back to work after birth) that hurt far to emotionaly. i am not at all againsed farthers and admire all men who are taking active rolls in there familys and even some as stay at home dads, but imagion carrying a child, linked litrally in every way to you for 40 weeks, giving birth and having that incredible bond and then having to seperate yourself in order to support your family. that is the ultimate sacrifice. one a man could never endure, yet simply accept it without much thought (in most cases). im sorry this is such a long post. im afraid it is something i am passionate about atm. i suffered severe post natal depression because of all the pressure placed on me right after birth. (eg. i couldnt hold my daughter for 2 days because visiters i didnt want argued who held her the longest and i didnt get a chance, and they of course knew this and ignored it). obviously this is only one senario, my own. but unfortunetly this happens every day. does anyone realise that the stats show 90% of post natal depression is caused by the pressure mums face from other people to be the 'perfect' mother?! go figure.

busybeegal 5 years 14 weeks

LOL -love the mom jeans in this photo.

cbgmick 5 years 14 weeks

I agree- society does hold different standards for moms vs. dad, but I think dads sometimes get the short end of the deal by society's standards when both parents work. For example, if a child is home sick or needs to be picked up early for a dr. appt or something... more eyebrows get raised when dad needs to stay home or leave early. It's not easily managed for either parent (and many employers don't like mom having to take personal or vacation time to do these things either), but somehow it's more expected that mom be the one to do these.

JennyJen 5 years 14 weeks

As much as I don't like to admit it - yeah mothers are held to a whole other level. I tend to think moms sometimes put it on themselves though, but it is how it is. It is definitely not as high as when our parents were raising me, but it is still obviously different.

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