Did You and Your Spouse Squabble More After Baby?

May 5, 2008

Spousal traits that don't bother you before babe may after. In addition to the stress of having a child, sleepless nights, hormone changes and getting adjusted to parenthood can shorten tempers and lead to arguments between otherwise amicable couples.

Things that you didn't think twice about before becoming a parent — your husband's failure to replace the paper towels or casual cursing — may become increasingly annoying.

Did adding kids to the mix cause you and your partner to quarrel?

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abqmama 5 years 2 weeks

Lack of sleep with a new baby makes everyone irritable, we snap at each other all the time. Now that the baby is mostly sleeping through the night it is getting a lot better.

macgirl 5 years 2 weeks

It was shocking to go from never really fighting to arguing and feeling annoyed daily. We both blame it on lack of sleep. At the 4 month mark it seems to be getting much better as we are not up all hours of the night.

macneil 5 years 2 weeks

Yes yes yes, both so tired. More things to argue about. More parental obligations. But, we laugh like a million times more.

duck duck goose 5 years 2 weeks

I don't think frequency of arguments has increased between us since becoming parents, but the content of our quibbles have changed. Mr. Goose and I have been a unified force these past twelve years. We have four little goslings. I've noticed a quick bloom of impatience and general grumpiness whenever our gaggle expands by a wee babe, but it recedes fairly quickly.

Dana18 5 years 2 weeks

Yes, we argue more now on how to raise the kids, how much money is spent and on what .

Greggie 5 years 2 weeks

The stuff mentioned in the story is stuff that bugged me before kids but not after. The toothpaste isn't pushed up from the bottom? Annoyance before kids. After, I realized there's way more important things to focus on.

gab6784 5 years 2 weeks

I think we argued more before the baby.

Kristinh1012 5 years 2 weeks

For a while we did. We actually never really had any real arguments until after we had our first child. We have two now, but I guess we've gotten used to everthing because we don't argue much

Greggie 5 years 2 weeks

Other. We have a lot less arguments now, but we don't qualify as "no" arguments either. Not that we argued a whole lot before kids either, we tend to just state things like they are, not bicker about it. But after having kids, we both mellowed.

schnappycat 5 years 2 weeks

Yep. We have been snipping at each other much more lately. I think we are both just tired, stressed, and impatient. Plus, he's been working long hours and is frustrated easily when the baby cries. I hope it passes soon!

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