Dads Help Out 2008-02-27 08:00:00

Does Your Baby Daddy Lend a Hand?

February 27, 2008

When discussing diaper duty with my pregnant pal, her hubby admitted, "I will never change a diaper. I just don't do that." My jaw hit the floor and I looked at my friend in disbelief. She was speechless.

I am lucky to have a husband who happily splits parenting duties down the middle. He changes diapers, gives baths, reads books, and puts our babe down for naps every day.

Does your partner help you out with parenting duties?
Source

Poll Tending To Baby Behavior Tips

21 Comments

gab6784 5 years 11 weeks

My husband does a great job, sometimes he needs a little nudge but for the most part he is fabulous :)

dleighl 5 years 11 weeks

When you say "help out", it makes me think of what used to happen to me when my son was small. I would be out somewhere and would run into someone I know and they would ask if my husband was "babysitting". I would say "No, he's at home with his own child. That's not babysitting." I was obnoxious, but it was a pet peeve of mine.

POPSUGAR Moms 5 years 11 weeks

My husband is awesome! I can't imagine raising kids with anyone else...especially the obnoxious guy from the post. Babysugar, your friend should lose him:)

AKirstin 5 years 11 weeks

What kind of grown man is afraid of *poo*? lol

ann418 5 years 11 weeks

My sister-in-law's husband avoids helping out with their new daughter. If he holds her, it's only for about 5 minutes. It makes me sad because I know she would love for him to be more involved. He claims that he doesn't have to do anything around the house because he works and she doesn't. Anyone else dealing with this? The good thing is, I know my boyfriend won't be like this when we have kids. I'm making luckyme's husband give mine lessons...

lawchick 5 years 11 weeks

I would not marry a man who refused to change his share of diapers. I think that is really chauvanistic (sp?) and mean! My husband and I don't have kids yet, but I'm the squeamish one - changing diapers won't gross him out at all. Plus we have lots of practice cleaning up our pets' messes, ugh.

fashionista119 5 years 11 weeks

I wouldn't call my Husband's part in parenting "Helping out", that would be like saying he's "babysitting" when our Son is alone with him (I've heard Men say about alone-time with their kids and it drives me batty). We are both Parents to our DS, and I don't feel that one "helps" the other.

cbgmick 5 years 11 weeks

I answered "other" as - like some of the other posters- it's not that he "helps out". We are both the parents and both take care of our children. We might do different things at different times but it doesn't mean that one is "helping" the other!

cbgmick 5 years 11 weeks

JennyJen 5 years 11 weeks

I don't think that what my husband does with our daughter is considered helping out - He does the same as me and we work on this parenting gig together.

LiLRuck44 5 years 11 weeks

He doesn't "help me out", we just parent our kids together. I swear my husband is the best Daddy in the entire world. He works from home and I stay home with the kids so we do everything together like eat meals, run errands, go to the gym, etc. as a family. He cooks better than any chef in town (and he wonders why I don't like to go out to eat), at EACH meal! If he isn't working, he's playing with the kids. I know we have it wonderful and easy, and I'm eternally grateful...

LiLRuck44 5 years 11 weeks

sofi 5 years 11 weeks

my hubby does a lot with the kids, but sometimes I need him to step up a bit more. He seems a little frazzled if he is left with both kids, so I don't get much time to myself. For the most part, we work well to parent and nurture. But considering I spend more time during the week with them, I'd love some free time when I can- without having to ask. I feel bad because he works hard, but so do I and I just need a change of atmosphere.

Twinkle 5 years 11 weeks

He's happy to help out but I usually have to ask, which I hate doing.

BlairBear 5 years 11 weeks

I do most of the work but only because my husband is at work for about 100 hours a week but when he is here, he does all that he can!

bajeckabean 5 years 11 weeks

It's not about "helping out" in our household. It's about both of us being parents to our child. And we both work (actually, my husband has been laid off for the past three months so... he's more of a stay at home dad at the moment). We both change diapers, give baths, have playtime, take the baby to childcare, etc. I think we're both lucky to have one another to support each other.

luckyme 5 years 11 weeks

I've got a Daddy of the Year. He does a great job. As part of our routine every night, he gets her out of the bath, feeds her, reads her a book and puts her down for the night. And that's just what he does every night. I love it and I love him. I have certainly lucked out in the husband department.

wingedkiare 5 years 11 weeks

My husband helps me out when I ask for it. Typically he's fairly groggy when the kids are up (he works nights), so I do most of the daily stuff - including naps, diapers, getting 'em dressed. But he does drive them to and from daycare.

ahost 5 years 11 weeks

It is not about him helping me or lending me a hand, or even the other way around. Parenting and all it's duties and pleasures are something we share together.