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Choosing Permanent Birth Control

How Do You Know When It's Time For Permanent Birth Control?

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Birth control is a big decision. A big decision.

There are so many options: natural family planning, condoms, the pill, and an IUD. Then there are the big guns. I'm talking vasectomies and having your tubes tied.

How do you know when it's time to go permanent?

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I am 99 percent sure we are done having kids. We've joked about it and had quick, five minute conversations here and there about our family being complete. But we've yet to have that sit-down, come to Jesus meeting.

A few of the reasons we think we're done include:

  • We have both a boy and a girl and have been happy to experience both worlds.
  • Neither of our children slept well during their first year of life. We like our sleep and are not very nice people without it.
  • We are about a month away from moving our daughter to a toddler bed, which means no more crib.
  • She's also about ready to be potty trained meaning no more diapers!
  • Life is good. Our family has a routine. It works for us.

Keep reading for more about the decision.

So we could just keep on, keeping on, doing what we've been doing. But we're being "forced" to make a decision.

I get migraines. I have since I was eleven years old. When I was pregnant, I didn't get any (awesome!) Unfortunately now I get them often and they've changed. I experience aura's, blurred vision, and tingly extremities.

My doctor has recommended a daily prophylactic that should help me tremendously but can also cause serious birth defects. There can't be any chance of me getting pregnant.

An IUD or vasectomy seem to be the only options. The pill causes my headaches to be worse, and if I'm being candid, I am not a huge fan of the weight gain component.

It's a huge decision. Vasectomy's can be reversed but it costs thousands of dollars and it's not guaranteed. There are several benefits to an IUD and little problems. Unfortunately, I happen to know that small percentage of women that do have problems, making me extremely hesitant to have the device inserted into my uterus.

Let's be honest here. My eggs are getting old. I'm already "advanced maternal age" and time isn't rewinding itself. If I found out I was pregnant today, I admittedly would have a small heart attack. Then I'd figure it was meant to be and jump back on the baby bandwagon.

I know that if there is a 1 percent chance that I want another child then we do the IUD. I just think that my 1% isn't want, it's nostalgia. It's the letting go of belly kicks, the sweet smell of newborn baby and baby coos that's hard for me. I don't really want another baby, but I'm not ready to say good-bye to that part of my life. It means my babies are growing up.

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