It's nearly 10 yrs of Brazilian waxing for me and I intend to continue during and after pregnancy.

It was a miracle if I got a shower every day for the first two or three months of my little fella's life. I'd never have time for a waxing appointment.

I cannot do waxing. I just can't. Ugh. Well, other than my eyebrows.

I don't even care about anything other than normal shaving, and neither does my husband. I doubt he'd even notice if I dyed it blue and waxed it into a heart.

I think shapes down there are downright ridiculous... but that's just me

And to be perfectly frank, the mere thought of even caring about that area or anyone seeing it the first few months makes me want to lie down and nap for a year.

I'm glad that lilsugar is here to help new moms with the really important stuff, like getting crystals affixed to their cooch. Keep it up!

I think it's important to get back into the groove after childbirth. Not in the recovery room, or anything, but once you get the all-clear from the doctor, what's the big deal? Lives are busy and stressful and ever-changing, sure, but the occasional naptime romp between feedings does everyone a little good.

SHAPES??? no way

"but the occasional naptime romp between feedings does everyone a little good."

Not everyone. I'm not saying it's unnecessary for everyone, but some people need more time to recover than others, even after the doctor gives the all clear.

"I think it's important to get back into the groove after childbirth"

Yes- you're right, it is. However, I find the extreme pressure on women to "get their bodies back" and become ravishing sex kittens again when they are going through one of the most life altering events of their lives to be ridiculous. Furthermore, I find that this pressure coming from other women to be even more alarming. I believe this site does women a disservice by constantly espousing ideas and shilling for products that have no place in the average woman's life. Designer waxes? Alpaca sweaters for toddlers? $290 baskets for babies to sleep in? Give me a break with this stuff.

facin8me- No one forces you to read this site if you don't like it. But many of us enjoy the stuff we find here!

I didn't personally experience any such pressure, but that might be because I'm a recluse. I don't think anyone here is suggesting that women should hit the sheets 10 minutes after the postpartum check-up. I was warned that having a child can seriously strip your femininity, and I didn't believe it. ...then I had a child. ...and I was lucky to get a shower every other day. ...or do anything with my hair other than a quick ponytail. Forget about feeling at all sexy or wanted like I used to.

As silly as some of the suggestions are, I think Baby/Lil's general intent is purely altruistic, and I can appreciate the general gist of the posts. A lot of women want to get those feelings back but need some suggestions and a bit of a jump start. There's nothing wrong with that.

On the subject of Baby/Lil's material suggestions, I do agree that most of them are generally impractical or way, way out of the average user's snack bracket. Our family doesn't struggle, and I still choke on my sammitch when I see the price tags on 90% of the suggested goods.

My problem is with comments that include a blanket "everyone" statement. No, everyone does not benefit from a romp just because you do. Just not like not everyone needs to extra time I need.

I do wish lilsugar would recommend more realistic items for the average mom, rather than everything being the top-end model.

MotoLinz- I understand what you're saying about having a baby making you feel stripped of your femininity. My problem with this site is the extremes- getting your femininity back by getting your husband's initials waxed into your pubic hair? Say that out loud to yourself and I think you'll get where I'm coming from. I'm not saying that this site shouldn't offer constructive ideas for women who feel like they would like to become intimate with their husbands or for women who feel frumpy from the demands of mothering. But a tiara in your pubic hair? Your right- the "general gist" of the posts is altruistic- but wouldn't you prefer something practical? Or sane for that matter?

i wanna shape!!! haha
a heart!! hehe that would be cute!

And I thought I was nit-picky with English. I apologize, Greggie, for my thoughtless blanket statement. "Everyone" was simply an arbitrary indefinite pronoun used in a statement that I didn't think would be so picked apart and ridiculed.

I didn't think it was a huge deal, just pointing out that it's not true for everyone. I'm sorry if you felt "picked apart and ridiculed."

I agree with you 100%, Facin8Me. I'm not giving credence to the waxing suggestions, but even a more sane and down-to-earth suggestion gives the same "Have sex!" message that some are complaining about.

Unfortunately, the out-of-this-galaxy suggestions seemed to pervade the entire site.

What an interesting discussion was sparked by this post on Brazilian waxing. I can definitely see everyone's point. It did leave me feeling a bit sour when I saw all the fancy schmancy strollers yesterday, and all the people so ready to brag about which model they own for their child. I mean, I enjoy this site because I still want to feel girly sometimes, and talk about girly things. It would be boring if this turned into Parents magazine. So it is nice to see some "fantasy" items on here.
Maybe there needs to be more of a balance.

Oh, BTW Greggie, I'm with you on needing time after the baby comes, I think it took me about a year to feel like I was ready to wear nice underwear again. It was all cotton, boring undies until then

"It would be boring if this turned into Parents magazine. So it is nice to see some "fantasy" items on here.
Maybe there needs to be more of a balance."

Excellent suggestion.

Why is it the sex topics that bring out such opinions and exchange? We all must be too polite when it comes to $1000 strollers.

Another member and I have talked extensively about some of the astronomical suggestions and both agree that we'd like to see things that are a bit more attainable/useful. One post that comes to mind was the Simple/Swank diaper bag blog. Even the "simple" diaper bag suggestion was many, many times what I spent on my daily bag - which I've used without issue for nearly a year.

While it's great to see interesting and unique products, I think many people (not *everyone* ) would like to see things in different and more acceptable price brackets...and unique and interesting items don't have to cost an arm and a leg.

I agree, Moto.

Certain items I expect to see just the one - the bottle one from yesterday comes to mind. It may be too expensive for my taste, but it's a unique bottle that isn't available in general.

But things like the cupcake holder and the shampoo rinser - only one option, which was on the higher end of the range, was given. No other options. I always feel like I'm being argumentative if I point out that it's available elsewhere, but on the other hand I like people to know that they don't have to spend $30, they can spend $10 and get the same item for a comparable quality.

I don't have a child yet, so no comment from me on the waxing or the postpartum sex. I'll just be happy when I can actually see "down there" again. Heh.

But, personally, I like reading about some of the "fantasy" items that romaniagirl mentions, just because it opens my eyes to other possibilities aside from the typical products you find at BRU or other big box stores. I've been pretty practical with my buying, but it's always fun to have a fantasy wishlist of more extravagant or special items you would love as a nice gift or special treat. IMO, for me, there is nothing wrong with reading about them or expanding my knowledge base. Of course, maybe that is just my naivety speaking. That being said, I also agree that some of the items are far from practical for most of us and more regular items maybe should be highlighted as well. I guess I just like reading about unique items, whether they are totally affordable or a little more luxurious.

Oh I completely think that "fantasy" items are fun and should be included. I think that's the point of the suggestions given - more balance. Almost everything recommended is given as the much more expensive item, rather than balancing fantasy with reality and the average mom.

I am always so shocked to see how many people are against the bringing sexy back posts. While extra fancy pubes are not for me I think the point of these posts is to remind some people to not forget their significant others. It's really easy to get wrapped up in all the stressful parts of mommy hood.

Funny that we're all outraged at some of the prices of things featured on here, I think it's a sign that we're all moms. I think when you have children you become more frugal and practical. Which is a good thing.

Funny that we're all outraged at some of the prices of things featured on here, I think it's a sign that we're all moms. I think when you have children you become more frugal and practical. Which is a good thing.

double post, sorry.

I'm not outraged by the bringing sexy back posts, I just like to acknowledge that it's not a priority (or even an option) for all women. I don't care that it's posted. But I don't think I should have to ignore it, either. Posting about how uncomfortable something like that would make me might make another poster feel better about their own lack of desire. Or might not.

So far as I can see, there's not "many" people outraged at it. It's spurned a wonderful discussion on how to balance things out, in my opinion.

Being older I have seen so many friends go down some paths that could have been avoided. I often refer to giving birth is like having a little nuclear explosion going off in your panties. While those first few sex attempts were anything but sexy for me or my husband- I think they were important for us. Important for him as all the attention was on the baby and me. He was really left out. Important for me as I went from wife and lover to life making pod. I felt gross, I looked gross and with the nursing my body wasn't mine any longer. I felt that I needed to reclaim a little bit of me. While it was scary at first it got better. Maybe the bringing sexy back posts would be better taken if they didn't always involve intercourse suggestions?

I'm all for getting back in the saddle after a baby. It is an important part of your relationship. BUT...why is it always up to the woman to be the sexy one? That's what upsets me.

And Swarovski crystals on your hooha? C'mon!

I don't want crystals on my hooha... I REALLY don't want them on my husbands either

Maybe there could be a "bringing sexy back" post that could be for the men?

Personally I want some decals on my vajayjay. Maybe some flames. Yeah, a race car vajayjay, that's what I want!

Plasticapple- I agree. I know that most Sugar readers are women, but still. When you have to make an appointment to go get crystals put on your parts- seriously? Between 2 a.m. feedings and laundry and nursing and never getting a shower or a moment to yourself- sex can be the last thing on your mind, and getting hair ripped out of your body so you can be more attractive to your husband- that's just another thing to do on a to-do list that's long enough already.

I think you have to have some time to get yourself together if you're going to bring back the sexy side of yourself. A nap, a long bath, a bottle of wine, and above all, a considerate husband who doesn't expect topiary pubic hair or labia crystals. One of the things my husband did for me was to buy me a gorgeous set of silky pajamas- completely appropriate for lounging around in all day (which I did quite bit), but a definite step up from sweatpants.

(Of course, I know some people may be into the whole waxed tiara thing, and that's perfectly cool- whatever floats your boat. Personally I think the entire idea of waxing sounds masochistic!)

I didn't read this post as "go out and get shapes and crystals in your pubes!". I read it as "to pamper yourself and feel sexy, treat yourself to a professional wax". And hey, while you're there you could even get wild stuff!

As for the "why does the woman have to be sexy one" question, I think that's pretty obvious. Most husbands are just happy to get a little attention when there's a newborn in the house. But, a lot of women feel frumpy and stripped of their femininity and sex appeal when baby is young. I think its great that this site offers suggestions to women to get themselves over that very common complaint.

Heh. I'm single and a Mommie to a nearly 2-year-old. But I wasn't ready for sex until 6 1/2 months post-partum. I think we all have to be respectful of what we want for ourselves and acknowledge that it's different for everybody. 'Nuff said.

PEOPLE NEED TO STOP ARGUING!!! And it's always caused by "Bringing Sexy Back." Stop the hate!

Lilsugar, I loved the post. It's good to know what's out there and what other women are doing. I, personally am not going to do the crystal thing but it makes me realize that I can get a little more frisky without feeling cheap and tawdry.
And about the high price point items we feature, we do try to balance it out with lower end items, too. Hence, the Simple Swank posts. We will try to do a better job featuring more options for you all. And, hope you will continue to read the Bringing Sexy Back posts. There were two that were not nearly as controversial and hope they were insightful for you all.
http://lilsugar.com/802134
http://lilsugar.com/770273
I hope you all enjoy the weekend!

Controversy isn't necessarily a bad thing. At least it has people talking about an issue that can be difficult for new moms. Everyone's different about when they're ready to be sexy again and that's okay!! If people are so offended by the "Bringing Sexy Back" posts, they should just skip over them and read the other posts. Nothing about any of the Sugar sites says "You must agree with us on everything we post." I mean, how freaking boring would that be? We'd be a bunch of pop-a-trons instead of the vibrant, diverse (mostly) female community we are!

I have been waxed once...she took off several layers of skin and I was in severe agony for almost a week afterwards. Yeah, hubby didn't get any for a while. To me having my nether regions shaved or waxed into a specific style is not what makes me sexy...my attitude about myself makes me sexy.

Oh, and my husband finds me sexy even when I don't shave (legs, pits, bikini line).... He would probably laugh his butt off if I came home with a tiara complete w/jewels....

I don't have children, but I've always been shaved and waxed. My legs, underarms, and ummmm, my nether region are maintained. I do this for me. It's part of my grooming habits like combing my hair and manicuring my eyebrows.

Like poster #1, I've done for several years. I don't intend to change this habit.

yeah i don't think so. After i had my baby the last thing i wanted anyone to see was down south.

"And about the high price point items we feature, we do try to balance it out with lower end items, too. Hence, the Simple Swank posts."

Yes, but those only happen once a week at most. My point was that most items in between are the high-end without other options listed.

I think waxing is a great idea.