Every mom wants to give a new baby a warm welcome, but if you’re having a second, third, or even more children, do they warrant a baby shower?
Every mom wants to give a new baby a warm welcome, but if you’re having a second, third, or even more children, do they warrant a baby shower? Mom Samantha A. doesn’t want to commit a social faux pas, yet she also doesn’t want her second child to be short-changed of precious memories with family and friends. “I don’t mean to sound greedy, but I feel like the second child is getting ripped off” without a shower, she says.
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Many members say it’s not “proper etiquette” to have two showers because “it’s kind of rude to burden those who are close to you and burn them out . . . unless someone’s insistent on throwing the party for you,” says Amber D. A shower is generally held to welcome mommy into motherhood, “and provide you with all that you need to do the job right,” Tammy M. explains. Because parents typically receive the basics with the first shower, when you have subsequent babies, “I reckon its asking a bit much” to hint that you want more goods, Shannon P. says.
Of course, even conservative moms say it’s ok to break with tradition and have additional showers on certain occasions, such as when the new addition is the first of an opposite gender, there is a long break between the birth of your kids, or it’s the first baby with a new husband, Tracy P. says.
“I've always heard that there is a shower for the first baby, and then again if there is a five-year or more gap, or if the baby is of a different sex. Of course, this is just a ‘Miss Manners’ suggestion, not a rule,” Paulette B. adds.
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