no, but there are things that i enjoy differently with each of them. our neighbor said once that someone asked her which child she loved the most and her answer was "i can't choose because they are differnt things to me. one loves me the most, one needs me the most and one is just like me."

Yes I do. I only have one child and she is my favorite.

This is actually why I'm very cautious about having a second child. I'm afraid that if I do have another baby, I might not show them the same love and respect I show my son. See, my son and I have been through HELL together, unfortunately...not something I'm proud of. But because of our experiences together, well...yeah, I'm just cautious about the idea of a second baby.

Oh no, I'm sad to see 10 people do! I'm also cautious about having a second child because I love my daughter so much and am afraid I couldn't love another the same way, especially if it was a boy. I know how horrible that sounds, it's a secret fear.

I think you love each child differently. My children are all SO different and that's what makes them unique and individual.

Oh that's so sad. There's at least 11 little kids out there not getting the mommy love they deserve.

I had the same fears as some of the commenters before I had my second child. I was convinced it wasn't possible to love another child the way I loved my first. And I was right - I don't love them in the exact same way, but I love them both very much and neither is a "favorite". My son and I have spent a lot of time just the two of us, and we have a closeness that comes from that. My daughter is a trip and a half and I adore her huge personality - she's usually the center of attention for anyone she meets.

I am expecting a second child and have had feelings of worry about loving one more, or having a more open relationship with one than the other. I would struggle so much with that and feel so guilty! I really hope that it will not happen... I know no matter how it seems from the outside I will love my children equally and do the same for each. I just hope they grow up knowing it.

Oh, for the people who worry about having a second child... don't. I think it's a wonderful gift for them to have a sibling or more. I am an only child and have always wished I had a sibling.

I do think that it is possible to love your children differently although I don't imagine loving one "more" than another.

I have one right now (and one on the way!) and I do expect that since they are different people (different interests, different personalities) I will have different relationships with them and may be closer to one than another at different times.

I've heard that your heart and love grow with each child so I try not to worry about it too much (if I have a second or third or whatever amount of children).

As my grandmother, who had 4 children, explained to me so truthfully, love multiplies, not divides. Each child adds as a much love as what you have for the first, so you end up with twice as much (and so on). Your relationship with each is different (but no lesser) and plus they have each other.

"As my grandmother, who had 4 children, explained to me so truthfully, love multiplies, not divides."

Awww, what a lovely comment! Your Grandmother was wise.

Well, to be honest, I find it a lot easier to shower affection on my son than my daughter. My daughter has always been this independant little spirit who never really seemed to "need" me. My son, on the other hand, was all hugs and love and kisses practically from day one. So, yeah, I sort of have a soft spot for him. I love them both as individuals, but he really warms my heart.

I agree that I love each of my children differently, but always with just as much love.

I know a woman who had 2 boys and she just recently had a baby girl. and I swear she ignores her sons almost entirely and spends all her time doting on her daughter. on her myspace page she has twice as many pictures of her daughter as both her boys combined and she wrote a blog about how a love between in a mother and daughter is more precious than any other love she has ever felt.

It makes my heart ache to see a parent show more love to one child than another.

Dulce.... bravo for being honest. My son is so much different from my girls. Both of them are independent and larger than life, but he is more thoughtful, loving and open. He has special needs, so it tugs on my heart SO much to watch him struggle for each and every thing he accomplishes, while my girls whiz through life more easily. I don't love them less, but I do recognize that he needs me more.