i was going to comment but ummm i don't have the energy right now,...
but i guess this was a comment...hmmm

That's good money that could towards a vacation for "mommy," nights and nights of dinners out for "mommy," or if "mommy" doesn't want to treat herself, money for baby's college fund. I mean, puh-leeze. (And yes, the mommy thing is creepy, Bella.)

I am all for if it makes you feel better about yourself but DON'T do it for anyone else but yourself.

I don't see a problem with getting surgical treatments like that if that's what a woman really feels will make her feel better about herself... BUT I think any woman needs to wait at least a year after having a baby to make the decision! Bodies and emotions can change a lot in that time!

And as for mommy... not even my two kids call me mommy! I really think that we need to get beyond this idea of all identity save for motherhood vanishing upon producing a child! Hello! I still love books, makeup, and my cats! Now I do aikido too! I am still me, and being a mother is now a part... not the whole... of being me!!!

Sorry, mini-rant over now!

What's wrong with women's bodies changing after childbirth? The rush now to be some taut little Barbie doll after having a baby is just unnatural. Weird, Stepford Wife perfection gone mad.

I'm on the fence, As a "mommy" to three, I would love to have this done but I don't think people should expect "mommy's" to have great bodies 5 seconds after birth. Regular women don't have trainers, chefs and nannies to help them get back in shape, so they shouldn't be compared to the celebrities that do. I agree, the "mommy" thing is weird.

i guess the tag for the response i chose says it for me...why *shouldn't* moms get to look the way they want to?

that said, the *marketing* of this kind of thing definitely irks me.

I have never been a mother but have seen the varying physical and psychological effects of both rearing and birthing a child. Babies, though a blessed creation, cause irrevocable damage to their mommies. Whether it is Baby #1 or #5 your body and mind will suffer from the experience. I don't 100% agree that cosmetic procedures should occur. I'm more in favor of the internal damage repair. The mom of a kid I went to school with had to have her bladder repositioned and attached to her insides after she gave birth to him. I think the tummy tuck is a good idea if you have the cash, but what about a year or more membership to a gym, Nutrasystem or counseling to help the women to really work on the effects of having a baby. If women only fix the outside, these "quick and dirty" fixes will only be a waste if you get pregnant again and your mind and possibly your organs will still be jacked up.

i'm with Seraphim

The quote from that woman is what really struck me... in her mother's time "your husband loved you no matter what" I don't think plastic surgery will make any husband love you more. Maybe you need to fix your relationship issues first.
Well, as far as the whole surgery thing goes, I'm all for individuals making their own personal choices privately. But I really hate the way these procedures are made into "package" deals and people get encouraged to do it in a very commercial manner. It is sick!

This just seems odd.
1.) what is this? Like a 2-for-1 type deal? Surgeons shouldn't be pushing other surgeries on women who are considering one or the other like a used car salesman and
2.) What is you want to have more kids? wouldn't you want to wait until you know you are done?
OR is it:
"If you agree to this surgery in the next 20 minutes and pay by credit card, we'll throw in a sterilization for your husband FREE!!!"

Cestlavie, good point. The story talks about that a bit... A surgeon who doesn't like the "package deal" concept points out that by selling these mommy makeovers as a package, women are more likely to be "upsold" into buying surgery that they weren't considering in the first place. The marketing of these is what bothers me so much.

And yeah, the quote about the husband made me so sad. If your husband loves you only because of your ta-tas, then it's going to take more than a scalpel to save that marriage.

I finally figured out why the "mommy" thing weirds me out. I keep hearing Ronald Reagan saying it. Even as a kid, I thought it was weird when he'd do that!

This is just awful- im all for gettin fit and healthy but all this racing for hollywood perfection is just disgusting. So what now? if someone's not preety n toned- they're "ugly" by choice? arrgh
im too annoyed to continue.

well, as a mother of two teenagers who never lost all the baby weight I am undecided. On one hand, its ridiculous to live up to such standards set by "Hollywood moms" to be stick thin after having children. I had 2 csections and my abs will never be the same. I was 5'2" and 125 pounds when I got PG with my first child. I gained too much weight, I know I did. I lost all but 10 pounds of it and when my daughter was 9 months old I was PG with my son. Lost all but 10 pounds from that pregnancy also. So I had 20 extra pounds I couldn't get rid of no matter what I did. I exercised, dieted, exercised some more. Plus I had my tubes tied after having him and the rumors about post tubal ligation are true. It messes with hormones. I yo-yo'd up and down with my weight for years! I keep thinking if I could just shed that 20 pounds. Now I am 38 and still trying to shed those 20 pounds. I have kind of accepted it may never happen. I think the only thing I would ever do is if I lost the weight I would have to do something about the saggy skin left behind...and my stretch marks. If I could get rid of my stretch marks I would be ecstatic!! I think that would make me happier than losing the 20 pounds!!! Breast lift sounds good, but I would be scared. Lipo??? I have seen it done...NO WAY!! So, I will continue to try to lose that 20 pounds with good old fashioned healthy eating and exercise and maybe someday get the nerve to get the stretch marks lasered off or something.

I'm against it, but I didn't vote because I don't agree that there is such a thing as a "perfect" body. And, whose to say that a body that just created life isn't "perfect," even if it is different from what it was before?

That "your husband loved you no matter what" comment is incredibly sad.

I'd rather they just change the beauty standards- stop expecting us to look like Maxim cover girls the moment we wake up, stop expecting us to look like Barbie dolls ten minutes after we give birth, and stop marketing this crap to women who are already probably insecure because their bodies have undergone major changes. But that's probably a bit much to hope for.

I have two children. My body has changed significantly. I've no doubt that a tummy tuck, breast lift, and liposuction would make me look like a different person. But I don't want to look like a different person. I've had kids, and my body reflects that- why shouldn't it?

Not to mention, tummy tucks are invasive abdominal surgical procedures- and with any surgery comes the risk of complications, up to and including death- is vanity really that strong, that we'd risk losing our husbands and children for bigger boobs or a flatter stomach?

I think women should do whatever they want. If someone needs that for themselves then I say go for it. It should not be done based on pressure from anyone else though.

I have always thought that after I was done having babies I would at least get my boobs and maybe my tummy done...but when I think about it I'm not sure if I'd be doing it for myself or because I've been conditioned to believe I should always look a certain way. And yes, I'm tired of how it is always "mommy this and that" it is starting to sound very cliché.

the impression i got from the "your husband loved you no matter what" comment was that in her mother's time, only her husband's opinion mattered a woman and thus women were content with their post-pregnancy figures. whereas nowadays 'society' aka the media pressures you - celebs, ads, and women's mags ... correct my over-optimistic opinion if i'm wrong!

I think that it's a personal decision that shouldn't be criticized by anyone. It's not up to the doctor to force on you or your husband to convince you to do it. It's your body and if you want to do it then it's your choice. It's sad that women are so insecure with their bodies but it's a fact of life and it's not going to change in our lifetime.

wow- interesting article. I was actually told by my obgyn RIGHT AFTER my second child was born that he could recommend a good plastic surgeon to give me a little tummy tuck if I was done having children. Now I have always been tall and thin and this just kind of depressed me that he thought I needed it or I would even think about it. Of course, I think about it all the time now that he said something-not any closer to doing it, but still.
What scares me more than the mommy makeover is all the teenagers on Dr. 90210 wanting plastic surgery. I fear for my daughter growing up.

I'm against it; what ever happened to just getting off the couch and getting fit?! Exercise is can cost nothing just get up and walk then run then go a marathon. See baby steps(bad joke.) Exercise and a healthy diet will give you those flat abs, small er butt and lean legs that you want - you have to work for it, not buy it in a doctors office. People are so lazy these days and just want the easy way out. I think being fi and earning that small body is sexier than a boob job and an easy way out in life.

pressure pressure! That's kind of sad! Play with and chase your kids and it might do just as well. But hey I'm all for maintenance at the right time in a safe way.

^ being fit (forgot a letter.)

While I think this is a nice idea, its NOT ideal. Recovery from these proceedures would take weeks, even months. How could you properly take care of your child when you are in recovery from several major proceedures?
I could see after the kids are in school that maybe you'd want a breast lift/implants (can TOTALLY see that lol), or if you can't get the flat tummy back completely a little tummy tuck, but seriously, its laziness to get a "mommy makeover". I had my first child and after I had recooped I hit the gym six days a week for an hour each day and ate healthy. I actually joined the biggestloserclub.com and did fabulously. It DOES take awhile tho, there is NO instant gratification. I'm not against plastic surgery and if later in life I need it, I'm all for it.
It would definately be nice to have the option to take the easy way out, but in the real world I can't fathom it.

I think it's great!
I will probably do soemthign to myself to feel good about myself after I have kids too...

To suggest that someone who gets a mommy makeover is lazy or just not trying is insensitive and flat out wrong. I lost all of my baby weight pretty easily after having my daughter. (by 8 weeks, actually). In fact, I weigh less now then before I got pregnant. But no amount of exercising will ever make the loose skin on my stomach tight again. No amount of exercise will ever remove stretch marks. And no amount of exercise will make your breasts less saggy. After having my next, and last child, I do plan on getting a mini tummy tuck (less invasive)to tighten up the skin, and a breast lift. I will not be doing it for anyone but me. I consider it my reward for putting my body through so much trauma and successfully birthing two children. I deserve that and I want it. I would like to wear a bikini again without seeing the loose skin and stretch marks, and that's all there is to it.

This completely disgusts me.

I think it's great for mothers to look healthy and well taken care off. How they achieve it? Well that's personal.
It does make for free 'mommy' advertisement when a lovely looking babe says she has kids

if you can afford it..why not..stop judging people..

It's stupid.

if the woman really wants it, then there's nothing wrong with making someone feel better about themselves if their personal self image has suffered to them due to being a mother. i think it would take a really strong person to be able to admit that to themselves

I think it's sad that this is being marketed as a "Mommy job" - why not just leave it as one of the "body jobs" (like I've heard) and leave who the person is out of it?

I admit, I probably will have some minor work done after I've finished having kids (mostly to remove the stretch marks that I'm not so fond of- and actually had pre-baby, though pregnancy made them more pronounced), but I'm more than willing to accept that my body type has changed and will continue to change - and that my breasts won't be the same as they were pre-babies.

i think if a woman really wants the surgery and it will boost her self-esteem, then she should go for it. i'm not going to judge...but i do think it's sad that it's marketed toward mommies (i agree with wingedkiare).

I think it's a way to exploit a woman who has just had a huge physical and emotional upheaval. Any woman should wait until her hormones level out, her body readjusts to the way it's actually going to stay, and she's not so exhausted (if that ever happens lol)If she still feels the need, then that's her choice. But to call it a "mommy package" and suggest that you're not allowed to not have a perfect body even after childbirth? No, no.

I don't think that women should be rushing into surgeries right after they have a child. It's the damage that the baby causes that should stop women from having kids. Eh, it's just a quick fix.

yes, we all want to look good and feel great about ourselves, but at what cost? what the majority of people don't realize is that people have died going under the knife due to heart failure/blood complications from the anesthesia.

I say, if I woman wants to and it will make it feel better about herself, GO FOR IT!!

I'm a mother of a 4 yr old and currently expecting my second child.

I can totally understand why this would be appealing. I carried really high w/ my son and have stretch marks that resemble deep rivers-- not so pleasant-- as well as lots of "extra" skin and droopy breasts. I'm certainly not in love w/ these things and post delivery / post post partum period of my current in utero sweet pea, I will definitely exercise and try to lose the weight and tone up. In addition, I continue do things (both pre and post pregnancy!) to make myself "look better' (in my eyes)... I wear makeup, I color my hair, I wax my eyebrows, etc.

So, I cannot say that I'm totally anti in the area of "interfering with what life hands you" and cannot judge what others chose to do.

However, I'm not pro-elective surgery and will never go to these measures. Why do we have to look like we did at 18 when we are 38???? Goodness gracious!! It's all just getting so out of hand!

mom of 4, had my last one at 42. so, i'm a little saggy in parts. think we're a little sensitive about the 'mommy' tag they used. whatever. it's advertising. as for the actual nip & tuck, don't think i'll ever do it, but if time & money weren't an issue, why not? but i much rather have a little botox on my 'mean mommy' wrinkles i have on my forehead.

yes! Moms deserve to look good too.
I must be a sexy mom in future!