There comes a point in life when a mother must broach a subject that she's not sure how to approach. Some mamas may get straight to the point and fire away while others sit and brew waiting for the perfect moment to arrive. Instead of mulling things over and making the situation uncomfortable, mom and dad can help create an open line of communication with a question box. Take an old shoebox and let the youngsters decorate it as they see fit then cut a slit in the top of it. During the week the kids and parents can toss in their questions in and the conversation will start to flow on Sunday night at dinner when the parents pull slips of paper from it to discuss. Eventually, the box can be tossed and mealtime becomes a time of free flowing discussion.



Paul & Joe
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We did this at school. We had a box where we could put our questions in, if we didn't want to talk about sex during sex ed, or even just random questions we wanted answered.
My parents never spoke to me about anything difficult. Well, my dad told me my parents were getting a divorce -- but after seeing my brother get upset, he sugar coated the whole ordeal and made it seem as if it wasn't happening! Anyway, they never spoke to me about sex or drinking and drugs. I learned about sex from school, and I never did drugs, though I did have alcohol as a teenager (but never did another more irresponsible than just drink it...so no drinking and driving, etc.) I appreciate that they didn't talk to me, because I know I would have been utterly embarrassed. I didn't become a messed up kid or anything.
I know I will probably talk to my children, but I hope it could be normal, and not something that was forced.
1I started talking to my son about age appropriate topics very early on and even though he is 12 now and still gets a little embarrassed at times we can have an open conversation about sex and tough issues. Sometimes we do it under the blankets or in the dark because he says it is easier to say some stuff when he knows I am not looking right at him. Hey, what ever works. At least we talk.
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