I didn't vote. It really depends on the relationship at the time. If your ex's presence stresses you out, you don't want him/her there while you are in labor.

No matter what, the father at least should know. Just because they are split, what gives her the right to take that joy away from him?

Unless the father is an imminent threat to the family, it's pretty horrible for him to find out in a birth announcement or via the internet. It's one thing to keep him from being in the room during the birth, but for him to not be notified first is very sad.

Adults should be adults snd behave as such. It's not about the realtionship or strains or any issues between parents. Parents should be mature enough to realize that the child deserves both parents there, especially of the partner wants to be there. My son's dad and I were not together when he was born. But dad was there through everything, feelings aside. And I would not have wanted it any other way.

Absolutely.

I agree with Cherrygirl. Although the birth may be stressful, you don't have to let the father in during labour but at least let the man know and let him hold what he created because you WOULD NOT have had that EXACT baby had he not helped out!!!

most men, yes. a select few, I don't think so.

Unless you honestly fear for your safety or the safety of your baby by telling him, it's really immature to let the father of your baby find out about the birth through the internet or a birth announcement.

If it's true that he only found out about the birth via the public announcement, that's incredibly wrong and I hope he uses it against her in the divorce. He doesn't have to be in the delivery room, but he does deserve to be updated as labor and delivery happen.

These two need to grow the hell up and stop playing this out in the press.

totally depends on the situation.

her rep said that the doctors order no one in the labor room but as soon as the baby was born he was called...so i think that since none of us really know the real story we shouldn't judge.these twos have been bashing each other non stop,calling the other unfit and all....she'd said some pretty mean things about him but so does he.now he's trying in my opinion to get people on his side since their are in a bitter custody battle.

he doesnt have to be in the actual delivery room, but its important that he at least knows before everyone.

boohoo to him. he has the rest of the child's life to be there. he doesn't get to go to the delivery room and see her crotch and her pain. and he also didn't carry the baby for 9 months, won't breast feed the baby or have the life long physical effects of having carried the child. sometimes life works out differently than we had planned and we roll with it.

honestly, these 2 are a disaster as far as co-parenting. i can't believe they were together long enough to create 2 children.

i think they are a disaster too. if it's true, it's pathetic to use your child as a means by which to hurt your ex...again, obviously i'm not privy to the particulars of their situation, but, missing an event like the birth of your child is kind of significant.

I agree with most people who have already posted.

Even if he were not going to be allowed in the room, he should have at least been told she was in labor and kept updated on everything as the labor progressed. What if something had gone wrong during delivery? As much as they may hate each other its still his child and he needs to be informed.

I also agree that we do not know the real situation and what really happened so we can't judge their particular situation. But in general when the parents are not together at the time of the birth I believe that the father needs to be informed and kept aware of what is going on before anyone else knows.

It really depends. If the guy is a abusive then he doesn't, but if the couple just decided not to be together anymore and aren't friends then he does deserve to go to the hospital and wait.

Of course a father deserves to know!

This is just sad for him - even if she decides later that this was not the right thing to do, there's no way to get this moment back.

I really hate it when women feel like they have more rights parent wise than the father. It is just as much his child as it is hers.

I think it depends on the couple and the situation, but in most situations yes the father deserves to know that she is in labor and that the baby was born. He does not have a right to go in the delivery room though.