okay.i believe each and every one of those reasons is crap.she is not handling things well.going on tv talking to everyone that will listen about her marriage is not handling things privately.also i hardly believe kate is on a budget.she makes enough money from the show that she can afford organic food.also why would i admire her for making money off her children.no one forces her to film the show and she isn't doing it for free.

Yeah I don't think it's admirable that she kept doing her public appearances. She should have canceled them to go home and be with her kids and husband. How can they really be handling things if she's still out on the road promoting her book?

I don't know what's going on in their marriage, but if it is as bad as the tabloid is reporting, she may have to deal with her husband and family privately and may have to cancel the appearances/etc. Or, maybe it's not as bad as the tabloid wants to show too, hence she's not going to 'panic'.

Then again, if she's the type of person who doesn't want to show that her home life is a mess (minding only her and her family 'positive' public persona and her appearance deal, translation: thinking only of moolah), she may just keep going with her promoting the book. Because if she does go home, it may send out the message that something is wrong and that'll give even worse publicity (perhaps).

Eh, all in all, I can't dislike Kate, she reminds me so much of my own mother LOL (but we were never reality tv family, since it's only me and my brother), while my dad reminds me of Jon (minus the going out and partying). I've grown up feeling mad at mom a lot of the time, but when I'm a mother myself and all grown up now, boy, I completely understand that mom is human and makes her mistakes, has her flaws, etc, and that all she did to me and bro growing up was only filled with good intentions. My parents are still happily married and they're one of the best example in my life that marriage does work (despite the troubling statistic).

I only caught 2 shows though (the one when she was shopping with coupon and hurrying home before the kids wake up from nap and the one when she let the 2 oldest ones to play 'mommy' for the day). So I don't think I'd give the best assessment on their personalities and behavior. I'm just basing my feeling about JK8 on those two shows

I really wish I could read more about this family...especially here .

In all seriousness though, I used to admire her about two years ago, pre-book deals, pre-fame, pre-tanorexia, pre-ugly haircut. I admired her when she was real. Now, she just doesn't 'connect' with me anymore.

I can't stand her hairstlye either and major orange tan.

What a load of crap.

if you read correctly, it said that kate fed the kids organic when money was tight...so before they began the series, she was already doing her best to fed the kids healthy foods. they didn't have much money before the show but she managed.

Shouldn't it be 8 reasons?

I think she has jumped the shark and has had much more than her alloted 15 minutes in the spotlight. She should now go take care of her family and send the cameras away.

1) Then I guess you admire Octomom too

2) Yeah. And even when her children and husband are uncomfortable, the cameras are still rolling. Even if private moments like pee and poop.

3) Yeah, choosing to go organic is nice. But she should not pretend like everything is. Her Juicy Juice sure was not organic, and the kids drank it like water. Organic fluff is still fluff, and still unhealthy. She is not on a budget any longer. How can anyone see their gigantic house and still think they are struggling?

4) She has helpers. More than one. Easy to be spotlessly clean like that

5) Have you seen Mady? Or Hannah being petulant when she does not get Mommy's lap? Or the kids always hitting each other on the head?

6) This I agree. No parent does not. But it was funny when Mady had to get in the "But we love Daddy more" during an interview

7) When your family is going through a crisis like this, you go home. To your children. Appearances can be cancelled or posponed. People will understand. Instead who is at home with the children now? Is being apart from your husband the best way to handle this problem?

I think she's an okay mom. I don't understand why people are so judgmental towards her. i don't think having carried 6 kids at once makes her any better than anyone else, but it sure doesn't make her worse. And as for people who are criticizing her kids behavior, I don't know any kid that doesn't act up once in a while. Also, I don't understand why so much is blamed on her, as if her husband isn't involved.

I kind of wonder if they need the money from her appearances. Yes, they have a big house and everything, but supporting 10 people takes a lot.

I like Jon & Kate a lot. And their children are beautiful and pretty well behaved considering the little ones having no idea of what life is like without a camera in their little faces. Kate is grouchy and flippant and often downright unkind to Jon who is a wonderful dad and does his share with the children considering he participates in all Kate's planned activities and outings for the children in addition to working a full time job. However if I was walking in her shoes, I am sure I would get pretty ugly sometimes too. She must be exhausted. She is a perfectionist and insist things be done her way. That has to be hard on her as well as the rest of the family. She needs to learn how to just relax and let things be what they are going to be. None of us is perfect and esp. a large family with multiples. All in all I pray Jon has not strayed in spite of the fact that he has to also be under a lot of stress. Yes there are times when Kate treats him like one of the kids. I will never forget the episode where they were shopping with the kids and she literally yelled loudly at him and screamed at him to "Come here right now!" like he was one of the children. Poor fellow. I felt so embarrassed for him. And since they have started building the new house I have stopped watching the show. I cannot stand how Kate is the boss over it all and Jon has little or no say. Anyway, they are blessed with beautiful healthy children and I do pray for them a lot. I think it would be very sad if they broke up. Kate, relax a bit....ease up... enjoy life. Jon, hang in there. You are all in my prayers.

i'm glad that you finally posted a positive story about them! there's been so much negativity surrounding them lately.

They don't need the money from appearances. They've been very open about how they made 8 million dollars last year.

I'm shocked at how much people dislike her, as evidenced above. I don't really feel either way, but the few episodes I've seen I have been impressed with how well behaved her children are.

More parents in America could take her lessons and raise better behaved kids.

As for her belittle-ing Jon, I don't feel bad for him. He's an adult. There are 2 people in a marriage. 2 people to sign the television contract.

I'm always shocked how harsh women can be to other women.

ORGANIZED??
She had her friend come over to clean the basement and organize it - because she says "she has no idea how or where to even start to organize" the kids things. "Her way of organizing is to throw it away!!!"
She has an obsessive compulsive disorder. That is why everything is so clean if it's not in it's place it will bother you until it is and that means NOW!!! I know this I've had this myself.
She just might need that nursing job,why does everyone just assume she would get custody? She can't even shop for her own cloths does that tell you anything? She makes Jon put together outfits and go with her shopping to pick out her wardrobe she claims to have "no fashion sense"
But the kids all look nice don't they. Because ........
She doesn't shop for the kids.
Aside from the nice lady that makes them matching shirts all the time with there names on them and a#1-8.
The many Companies that send them the latest stylish cloths,jackets,shoes and backpacks(advertising)
The Companies choose and match the kids in the same cloths.
Box after box for which Jon breaks down and takes to be recycled per Kates orders.
Jon dresses,baths,plays,brushes there teeth,washes them up after meals,actually goes in the Ocean - doesn't stand in the sand screaming.
Kate does do the girls hair everyday although I think it is because she doesn't think anyone else can do it just like she would and that would not be good enough - we have learned "you use the odd colored ponies for play not the pink ones for heaven sakes"
I loved it when they camped in the back yard and Jon let them make smores before Kate came outside and ruined the whole experience for them and they had marshmallow in hair they were chocolaty and Jon had them all cleaned up Kate never new how much fun they had getting gooey and not being yelled at for it.lol
Jon bike-rides,roller blades,Ice Skates,climbs to the top of a lighthouse,chases pine cones,gets in the pool with the kids. As Kate sits and screams "oh my word JON what are you thinking?"
He's probably thinking he wished she go do something so the kids could have fun.
She sleeps in every morning,he gets the twins ready and off to school.
Jon has changed jobs so he can work more from the home be there at her every beck and call.
Heck even I tune her out sometimes when I am watching.
How much time does she spend writing those books,cleaning the kitchen floors 3 times a day,on the Internet and cutting coupons?
How often is she away doing book signings and interviews?
Who's watching the kids then?
They will forever remember that the house was clean,we all looked the same,we couldn't wear the shoes we wanted and we could not get dirty.
**classic**
****The Coupons - if she does not have a coupon for it you don't get it but if she does have one you had better use it or... "WHAT,RECEIPT RIGHT NOW,NO WAY where is it? I don't believe you!!! Your going back to the store - You knew better! What were we thinking?
(lets waste $8.00 in gasoline to get that .50 back)
When she did sit outside in the garage and let the kids play "ever so cautious and cleanly in the right shoes of course - she had helpers and did you ever hear her say "please or Thank you" to any of them?
They even travel with them to help.
Kate was always ever so greatful to the Thursday laundry folding and ironing lady.
That lady also let the kids help because they were just ran out of the kitchen for "smothering" there mother,as she could not wait until Jon got home.
Did you know that before they were on tv Kate had Jon go stand in line at the food pantries for his kids to eat.

I like the show. I like the family. I don't think I can be Kate's friend IRL, but that is not the point. And I feel no need to bash her. It will be interesting to see her and Jon work their issues out, personally I would do that privately. Good luck to them. I appreciate them showing how they parent on TV.

geez, 'anonymous' ... for someone who has 1) too much time on their hands (700-word comment) and 2) obviously seen every episode... you sure are judgemental. if you hate kate so much, why do you watch the show?

ps..... LOVE her hair !! it's very cool.

well geez LilaBo, They sell dvd's of all the episodes and I have two girls.
1)The show does have others in it.
2I never said I "hated" anyone. (do you work for a tabloid? twisting my words.)
3)I never mentioned Her hair.
I just wanted to tell the truth about her actions - no I don't like alot of the things she does or the way she talks AT people.

Seriously, this post is just "horrendously horrendous" (to quote Kate Gosselin) and absolutely ridiculous. You admire someone because she figured out how to exploit her children and make money off of them? Parents in third world countries do the same thing by selling their children in the sex trade, the Gosselins just sell their children's privacy and dignity. No child should have to live in a house with permanently attached studio lighting and a camera crew following them around and filming them crapping in a plastic toilet in a laundry room. It is just sick and if their "our life is our show and our show is our life" was filmed in California at least those kids would have some laws protecting them. And all of you fans just keep the exploitation machine chugging along. All of those visits Kate makes to churches make me especially sick because why would anyone who is a Christian support children being exploited and taken advantage of?

I am totally disgusted with any parent who expoits their kids. Jon and Kate should be ashamed and have the kids taken away. The trauma of thier earlier years on tv and them being exposed to such luxury will take such a toil on those kids in years to come. TLC loves the drama of an affair as it will bring more people to the show which is more money. Its really sad.

Seriously?
You're kidding, right?

I am still one of the few people out there in Kate's corner, or so it seems. Nice that you did this. Kate is a great mom. She will get through all this and be stronger for it.

As I think back Kate was just recently rude to the crew that came to put solar panels on the house,as well as every other person the people that brought her stove,the microwave,the sound and camera crews. Her "friend" that watched the kids and gave them gum.
I hope she had a nicer bedside manner when she was working as a nurse!!!!

I, too, am one of the ones still in Kate's corner. I think anyone in the public spotlight will face inevitable backlash. It's true the Gosselins are being paid handsomely for their involvement - they're ensuring that every single one of their eight children will be able to go to whatever college they choose, and they'll have a hell of "one interesting fact about me" to share at orientation. Some of the commentators think that Kate should be cutting her book tour short and heading home; no doubt she is under contract by her publisher to complete a list of public appearances. If 1) things are as bad at home as portrayed in the media, they'll still be bad without adding breach of contract to the mix. If 2) things are trumped up and blown out of proportion, Kate is honoring her obligations.

It's true the Gosselin family has chosen to live their lives in public, so there's no reasonable plea to leave the whole thing alone, but if your objection is to the exploitation of their children, there's a pretty powerful trickle-down effect from you not watching->advertisers don't buy->sponsors quit sending stuff->TLC renegotiates contract->Gosselins decide it's not worth their time.

I hope this family the best and I think they have beautiful children with extremely capable and loving parents.

I agree with the majority of Kate's kids being well mannered and behaved, EXCEPT for her daughter Maddie! This little girl has the worst attitude I have ever seen. I've watched Jon and Kate Plus 8 from the beginning and cannot stand watching any episodes with Maddie anymore, she is such a brat!!

Thank you for this very lovely piece. I am a fan of the show, and happen to like both Jon and Kate. While I do believe she's a control freak with OCD, I think the producers pick out the worst parts of her to highlight in the show.

I'm fairly certain if a camera followed me (and alot of those posting negative comments) around 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, they could find 20 minutes worth of stuff every week to make me look like a horrible mother and wife. I lose my temper. I roll my eyes. I snap at my kids and husband. But I'm also a caring, loving, giving wife and mother who would do anything for her family. I'm not defending the way Kate treats her husband (or other people) sometimes -- she's clearly wrong -- but until you walk in someone else's shoes, you shouldn't judge.

I also don't believe their children are being exploited. If someone waved a few million dollars in front of most of us, we'd jump at the chance. The cameras won't be there forever, but the money will go a long way to raising those children (and putting them through college) after the show is long gone.

Thanks, LilSugar, for a positive article about Kate (for once).

just read the website www.gosselinswithoutpity.com and you will see exactly what a wonderful mom kate is.

CG, can't see anything there
Anyway, so many anonymous comments...

nevaeh- it is http://gosselinswithoutpity.blogspot.com/

The thing that drew me to the show and the Gosselin family was that they were a REAL family with REAL struggles that come with multiples (finances, house work, laundry, cooking, cleaning, basic day to day life). I myself have twins and I admired Kate, at that time. However, to me they are no longer a "normal" family, they obviously do not have financial struggles any more, it is pretty obvious that they have housekeepers, cooks, babysitters (although Kate denies having a Nanny, just a "family helper", sorry Kate that's a Nanny). Before all of the recent scandal, I myself noticed that Kate's behavior had changed for the worse, she definitely has let the success go to her head. I have read reports that she has no friends and their community says she has an intolerable personality. Perhaps that is why her family isn't involved in their lives, maybe that's why Jon's mom isn't involved either. It's unfortunate that their marriage is falling apart, in front of the world. The success of the show is bittersweet to me, I would never want the details of my struggling marriage to be front page. I am disapointed in Kate I just saw that she interviewed with People giving details of why they may split, just a few days after giving an interview where she stated they will deal with the issue privately. I mean shouldn't this be a time, where you need to just be with your kids to answer their questions, and make sure they do not feel abandoned and know it is not their fault and they are loved? It is my opinion that there is a way to handle the media, you make an announcement and leave it be. If there is nothing to hide the media won't be there to find it. All in all the show does not depict your normal or real family anymore. I can't relate to them anymore. Too bad

Blah, Blah, Blah...Jon and Kate are doing the best they can...blah blah blah. Puleaze! If they wanted to do the best for the family they would step out of the spotlight and focus on their family and forget about exposing their kids on the show and opening themselves up to all the public scrutiny and ridicule. Those kids will be able to google themselves someday and alot of what they read will hardly be flattering. Plus they will get to see reruns of all of their temper tantrums, meltdowns and hysterics on national TV (don't even get me started on the pee and poo episodes!) along with all their peers, how wonderful! They are so concerned with all of their product placements, fancy trips, matchy outfits, whitened teeth, hair plugs, big house, new cars and interviews with People Magazine and every network talk show their is that they have blinders on to what many of us can see right before our eyes...their "family" is taking a backseat to all the flashy perks and they are falling apart! Kate reminds me of a greedy Donald Duck holding the shiny pearl in the oyster as the shell closes in on him while he is saying all along "mine, it's all mine". Did someone say anyone would do the same with 8 kids??? HA! Speak for yourself! I'd want my privacy and family life back.

the fame and fortune has definitely gone to her head. I enjoyed the show for awhile but her horrible behavior towards her husband, her control issues and treatment towards her brother and jodi warrant her to seek professional help instead of parading around the country trying to sell a book on parenting and christian family values. She has turned into a prima donna instead of mom and wife..It makes her book unbelievable. I think the show is going to fizzle out although it should be terminated for the sake of their family.

OH MY WORD! All you people are ridiculous! Jon & Kate plus 8 is a TELEVISION SHOW! edited for better ratings!!! get a life already! criticize all you want but in all honesty if you had 8 kids (and having sextuplets is so frickin rare-DO THE RESEARCH!) and someone offered you a hit tv show to make millions of dollars(with financial security for you and your kids forever) wouldnt you take it? and if you made millions of dollars off it knowing your kids are happy (face it those kids are always happy) wouldnt you buy a big frickin house? YOU ARE SO JEALOUS

OK.....am I the only woman in the world who has a problem with the way Kate treats her husband? I have to be honest.....I really HATE this show. In every episode I have ever seen...including the very first episode...Kate talks to Jon as if he is a complete idiot! I am not saying that he is totally innocent....but seriously...how can she honestly think that treating her husband with a complete lack of respect....in front of millions of people...would NOT drive him away. I hesitate to say that I admire her. She carried and delivered six babies at one time. That much is pretty admirable. Her overbearing, controlling, obsessive and rude nature I can definitely do without.

my name is sam and im 1 of kates sisters and it is hurtful to read all these comments about my sister if yall hate my sister so much then why do you even bother to watch her show and just remember theres alot you dont see and didnt your mothers ever teach you that if you cant be respectful and say something nice about somebody ie: my brother in law jon or my sister kate then dont say anything at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is kinda crazy to me! how can all of you sit here and criticise kate on how she's handeling things? I think she's a great mother, though sometimes its a little hectic, you try raising 8 kids and see if your life isn't. and all of you saying things about them making money off their kids... why aren't you saying anything about the rest of the families who have reality shows? yes, the do make money off the show but they use it to raise their kids and take care of the family the way they think is right. I think jon is a good dad but its like everything kate says he trys to go against it... no wonder she treats him like another kid! I think how kate doesn't want the kids to be dirty is understandable... my sister is the same way she used to take my neices clothes off when she would eat that's just takin care of the clothes... you know how much money it costs to dress 8 kids I'd be freakin out too... and yess they have money but that doesn't really matter. I don't think you should dis kate on the way she's handling this whole jon cheating thing either... why isn't anyone saying anything about him? HES THE ONE THAT CHEATED!!!! she's handling it her way, people handle these things different shea choosing to keep on and do her signings and why not? idk I just think its wrong to judge kate on how she's dealing with all this and critcising her mothering abilities!

I'm all for women belittling their husbands, especially on TV, because men have been belittling women for decades and it still goes on! So, for a change, here's a woman who lets her man know who's in charge and doesn't take any of his crap. I wouldn't be too shocked to learn she beats him up when the cameras are not on. I think she's a role model to women everywhere. The only reason Jon's cheating on her is because men can't handle strong and assertive women.

Everyone talks about Jon and Kate who are both immature. No one talks about what is happening to the children, and negative things are manifesting and not in just one of them.
This is a dysfunctional family on steroids and we watch the train wreck. This equates to the other show where people are filmed watching terrible things being done and do nothing. The ratings of this show truely tell us this is what most of us have become.