Mommy Dearest,
My younger sister recently asked if I would like to attend her first baby's delivery next month. While I appreciate the invitation and can't wait to meet my nephew, I don't think I can actually stomach watching him be born because I'm squeamish around blood. I do not have any kids of my own, but plan to have some someday. How do I explain this to her without seeming ungrateful or hurting her feelings?
— Don't Want to Attend Delivery
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Don't Want to Attend Delivery,
Honesty is your best bet. Tell her that you appreciate the offer and would love to be at the hospital when she goes into labor, but don't think you can handle watching everything that occurs during the birth. She will understand — if not now, when the actual process is underway. I have had two children and couldn't bear to look in the mirror that nurses offered. I think many women sympathize with your feelings.
— Mommy Dearest
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Just be honest and straight forward. My baby's due in August and I was actually surprised my hubby wanted to be in the delivery with me because I just kinda assumed he wouldn't want to. And I definetely wouldn't have been mad. I would have asked my mom instead. I bet she'll understand if you just tell her you'll be there for her in the hospital but don't feel comfortable going in the delivery room.
1when you tell her just make sure she knows you're genuinely concerned about hurting her and let her know you put thought into your decision....just be honest and discuss with her other options for a birthing partner...if she doesn't have any other options, however, then maybe you should reconsider
2I agree with skigurl, I would definately reconsider if she does not have a birthing partner, birthing a baby into the world is a wonderful experience and someone you know should be there to support you. Also when it actually happens you may forget the squimishness, or just do NOT look down there. If you are up by her head you can't really see anything.
3I was 17 when I was my sister's labor partner, her hubby couldn't be there. And I was told I didn't have to look below her waist at all. And it was nice that she didn't have to be alone. And I got to hold my niece first..it was a wonderful moment and memory! Now, my niece is turning 17 next month. Wow, I feel old..LMAO!!
4i vote to reconsider. it's totally awesome to see a baby be born. one of the best days of my life was watching my niece come into the world....
5There are ways to be in the room without seeing any blood and gore. There is usually a sheet up over her abdomen and knees. Just squeeze her hand and look at her face while it's happening. There's no reason for you to be at the foot of the bed with the doctor.
6Maybe talk to her about why she wants you there. You could always be her head and shoulders buddy... You don't have to see anything you don't want to.
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