My sons, no. My daughter, yes. I have faith that I can raise my sons to be respectful of their date, but I can't do that for my daughter's dates. Obviously I want to raise her to be respectful too, but I unfortunately know from experience how a woman can be overtaken against her will. Yeah, I worry about that happening to my daughter.

I sure do even though it's still a long way off. Doesn't every parent?

i hate that shotgun comment more every time i hear it. girls can be just as aggressive as boys, i'm tired of girls being presented as gullible victims just waiting to be taken advantage of.

as for dating, how could you not love the person that loves your child? hopefully we have done our job as parents and our girls make, (and date those that make) appropriate choices.

lickety split...i like your style

if you teach your children to make good choices, then you've done your duty

not to mention, young girls these days are total sexual predators...it's the teenage and teeniebopper girls who are the pursuers most of the time...poor grade 7 boys are scared while girls spend countless nights calling them over and over!

I understand all that and my boys will be educated as well. It's still difficult for me, as a victim, to not worry about my daughter more.

Hehe, I'm half terrified out of my mind and I'm half joking when I talk about the morning when I woke up, rolled over and asked my hubby whether they still make chastity belts.

I think a parent that doesn't worry about their child & dating is blissfully unaware, but it there can be too much over protection as well, which is equally harmful.

Bottom line - I'm moving to the Artic Circle and keeping my kids isolated until the age of majority. Okay, seriously, I'll do the best darn job I can of educating them, supervising them (as appropriate), providing information and resources, and pray like heck that they make good decisions when situations arise.

Hehe, did I say *arise*?

I haven't even thought about it yet, even in jest. Geesh, I'm worried about my son hitting basic milestones right now, not getting it on with a girl (or boy).

i totally worry about adolesence (dating, drugs, academics) and mine are only 3 1/2 and 1 1/2. i have 2 boys and of course i will instill in them, a respect for women and themselves. but like others have mentioned, it's the girls that worry me, especially when i've talked to moms with teenage boys. apparently, some girls now are very forward, very aggressive. if i had a girl, though, i'd be worried about her too and all the aggressive, manipulative boys out there. guess i'm a worrier and probably need therapy

lickety I'm with you too.
hate the double standard.

"I understand all that and my boys will be educated as well. It's still difficult for me, as a victim, to not worry about my daughter more."

Greggie, how are you a victim?

I was raped when I was 18.

Greggie I'm with you. I watch way to much SVU and it's easier for guys to overpower girls. Yes tweener girls might call the house everyday but the chances of them assualting them or giving them alcohol/drugs so they can have sex with them is smaller.

I watch way too much SVU too I had to stop watching it after I became pregnant. It was too disturbing for me. I'm mhg, adolescence scares the hell out of me! I know that I can't rely on the school system to teach my kid anything about real life so I have to do all that and then leave it up to faith and my child's judgment that she will do the right thing and if anything be safe.

yeah me too greggie, in christmas eve a man tried to rape my friend he couldn´t cause she wears a buffer, and she says she felt so powerless because you can´t do anything, I mean I dont think sons have to worry about that, well of course they can be in danger too but no in the same way.

Greggie, that's awful. I'm so sorry.

Please know that I was asking because I was curious.. I wasn't being snarky and I apologize if it came across that way.

that is awful

I didn't think it sounded snarky, just inquiring.

yes i worry, my kids are young too. my son just turned 10 and i worry in 5 years about him starting dating. it doesn't matter how much i prepare myself...i'll prolly be drinking the night all my kids go on their first dates...