That is such a touchy topic, I don't know that I would. I am not sure I would have wanted to do that without my spouse there but I think its great that she chose to do so and his family can have another little piece of him around to love and remember.

Yes, without a doubt!!

Yes.

awwwww

I would. And what if he had survived? They would have wanted to use it anyway.

YES!

Yes!

I don't think I would, I have two children already and I wouldn't want to be a single mom! Perhaps if I was younger and wasn't a person who needed so much sleep!

Maybe, but only if we didn't already have a child.

Absolutely!

Absolutely! Actually, we already have several vials of his sperm frozen (just got the bill for another year of storage). Not because we fear he will die (god forbid), but because he has a low count and while we were successful with IVF once, we aren't sure he'll have enough viable sperm for future tries. We wanted to cover all bases.

Absolutely!!!

Absolutely I would!

absolutely!!!

I've thought about this before (I think too much) and I would.

No doubt.

I'm sorry but to me this is kind of selfish. I would only do it if it was my husbands last dying request. When people do this they are not thinking about the child but themselves. I'm not saying the child cannot have a good life but they will always be thinking about the father they never had. It's like they want to see their husband reincarnated. To all the ladies that answered yes, be honest with yourselves, if you had your eggs frozen and chances are you were going to die would you want your husband to fertilize the eggs and have it implanted in another woman.

I agree with OhJeeze, its selfish. I understand the need to have something of your dead husbands, or to have a symbol of your love again, but to make this child grow up without that father is just selfish.

I lost my father to cancer when i was three, i Have no memories of him and no matter how many pictures i look at , or how many stories people tell me, i carry around the HUGEST hole in my heart for a man i will never know. to deliberately do that to a child is unforgivable in my view.

Absolutely!

Then what do you say about women or men who adopt as single parents? Are these kids going to wonder who their biological parents were? Sure! But that's up to the person who adopted them to teach them about where they came from, what or where their culture/country is but all of course at an appropriate time.
I come from a home without a father and I turned out just fine. Maybe as a child they might not understand, but when they become adults I'm sure they will one day identify with their mother's decision.
If it were the other way around, I'd leave that decision up to my husband because he's ultimately the one who will live with that decision, not I.

There is a huge diff between knowing your parent is dead, and wondering about your bio parents as an adopted child. I am talking death here, not absent fathers or birth parents.

But some biological parents request that they not ever be contacted by their adopted child, so where's the difference in that? Isn't it the same as if they were "dead?" I just think it's unfair to say that what this woman did was selfish. Is that how people view abortion too? Probably not.

I think there is a difference because with an adopted child you are giving them the chance of having a stable and good life (if that is what you're intentions are), you are acting unselfishly. When you do this you are acting selfishly because you are not thinking about how will this affect the child. As humans we all do selfish things in life, so I am not judging these people but the act itself is selfish

I would, but don'r know if I would ever use it. I've been a single mother to a small child and it is TOUGH.

I think sometimes the desire for having a baby trumps all logical thought. For us, it's a choice we struggle with a lot. My SO has 3 children from previous marriage, I have 3 as well, but we do not have one together. I would LOVE to have a child that was "ours" but practicality and sense win me out daily. As much as I love him and would love another baby, I know that I owe too much to the children we already have...

YES!!! Especially if it was something he wanted also and agreed with me doing (this woman's husband did ask her if she planned on using his sperm after he died.) And, ohjeez, yes I would want my husband to use my eggs if the situation was reversed, don't even have to think about it.

yes, because i might never want to be with another man. BUT i might not use it if i felt guilty about bringing a child into the world without a father :S jmho

yes. and look at how cute that is

I kinda of agree with ohjeeze....

I mean, MAYBE if we didn't yet have a child or, like someone else said, it was his last request....

but otherewise i don't think so....

you know what, on second thought I don't think I would at all. I wouldn't want to have to raise a baby on my own and later have that kid ask me about their father.

Sorry I know I'm in the minority on this but I don't think it's fair to the child. But who knows what I would do for sure if I was in that situation. Just my opinion.

Yes! And it's not selfish, everyone!

Would you rather not be alive than not know your father?

My fiance and I are making a decision about whether or not to freeze his sperm. He is currently serving in the Iraq war, and will eventually be deployed to Afghanistan where mortality rates are higher. We have no children, and he is the last man of his family name, therefore he has always planned on having a son to carry it on. If something tragic were to happen, I would want to have his child even if he were not around. I am very close with his family, and his parents deserve a grandchild. The child may grow up without a father but would be surrounded by love and support. And I would teach the child everything it wanted to know about it's father. Also, if he were to become infertile due to injury, it would be smart to have some of his sperm around. I think every situation is completely different.

My fiance and I are in the same boat!! exactly. He is the lat guy in his family with him name, because him father died. He will be deployed soon and I think it would be a good idea.