Of course it's possible. So long as neither of the parents is irresponsible or abusive, all it takes is for both parents to put the children first. My parents aren't best buddies, but they certainly can - and have - spend time together for the sake of us kids. They've never played us off the other and they've always maintained a working relationship.

As the product of that kind of divorce, honestly I don't understand the other way! How can parents care so much more about themselves than their kids that they can't put their own drama aside? Nobody could possibly think it's healthy for their children to deal with hateful parents.

yes, but..if one parent doesn't follow it i can see where this would just blow up. i also think that it's very easy for bruce/demi/ashton because there is 1) pleanty of money for everyone (no one is watching anyone ride off in a range rover from their double wide), and 2) all of the adults are satisified in their career of choice.

for ordinary folks the stresses of alimony, career advances with a move vs staying with the kids are very real. no one in the bruce/demi/ashton situation has had to make any sacrifices have they? they're just living their lives exactly as they want to; who wouldn't be easy to deal with in that senerio?

I agree lickety split. Money has a lot to do with it.

It's really nice to see divorced parents not use the kids as pawns. I do get a bit creeped out by the closeness of Ashton and Bruce. I may be projecting though. I have an ex that always wants to hang out like a big happy family. I still shutter at the thought of one awkward Easter 3 years ago that involved him, his fiance, me, my fiance, all the kids- oh and the girl that he cheated on me with that ended our marriage. My fiance thought it was weird and rude of him. I didn't really care as our marriage was over long before he cheated. Our situation is decent. We get along for the most part and impose the same rules at both houses. If my son is grounded at our house that grounding follows him to his dad's house on his nights.

I was in the middle of my parents divorce being the oldest of four children and 16 years old at the time. I never thought they would be able to have a civil converstaion again, it is now 13 years later and we have spent many wonderful holidays and family events with my mom, dad, and new step mother. I always commend my parents on putting their differences aside and putting their children first, so I KNOW it can be done.

I had a friend when I was younger whose parents were divorced and both remarried. They got along better than they did when they were married. Her mom even babysat her dad's kids! I had never seen such a civil divorced couple in my life. It was nice, though. The kids didn't feel torn between the two.

Of course, this is as ideal as a divorce can be. I'd like to think that this is how I would react if I were to get married, have kids and divorce one day.
But it's also easy to judge when you're not in the sitatuation; it's like any break up, sometimes it's easy to hang out with your ex, and sometimes there's too many feelings involved, and seeing the other person is the last thing you need when you're trying to move on with your life. I think that in these cases, no matter how much you want to make your kids happy, it must be too painful to hang out with their father/mother and his/her new significant other.